Five-time best-selling author Larry Winget calls himself the "Pit Bull of Personal Development," and in his new book, Grow a Pair: How to Stop Being a Victim and Take Back Your Life, Your Business, and Your Sanity, he offers common sense advice for taking charge of your life. To reach your goals — personal, career, money or otherwise — Larry says you have to reject victimhood and start being more assertive.
Quiz: Do You Need to 'Grow a Pair'?
Larry offers the following questions you should ask yourself:
- Do you allow people to take advantage of you?
- Do your kids talk back to you?
- Do you find yourself picking up the slack for lazy coworkers?
- Do you let people cut in front of you in line?
- Do you accept bad service without speaking up?
- Do you eat cold food in a restaurant rather than send it back?
- Do you allow people you are paying to be late for appointments?
- Do you let things slide even though it bothers you?
- Do you let your friends hurt your feelings and never say a word about it?
- Do you often feel responsible for other people and their feelings?
- Do you find yourself unwilling to express yourself for fear of offending someone?
- Do you ever feel that people don’t respect you?
- Do you find yourself compromising your opinions and beliefs in an effort to go along?
- Do you feel like you are being used?
- Do people talk down to you?
Do people mistreat you emotionally, verbally, psychologically or physically?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, Larry says chances are good you need to "grow a pair." He's not talking about anatomy — he's talking about attitude! Instead of offering excuses or explanations, Larry says we must face facts, take responsibility and deal with the consequences.