Test of Congruency


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Find out what you really think of yourself by taking this test.

The profile that follows will help you see the degree to which your current life experience " how you are thinking, feeling, and living " compares to what your experience would be if you were living an ideal, fully authentic, and fulfilling life. This test takes you through a three-step process.

First, you will describe your full potential by rating yourself on certain dimensions as you would be at your best.

Second, you'll rate yourself on the same dimensions, this time as those dimensions reflect who and what you believe you really are.

Third, you will determine the percentage of difference between the two. The comparison will give you an early benchmark as to the health of your self-concept and the extent to which you are living true to yourself.

Step 1: Circle all the words that you think describe the ideal person you want to be, the person you believe is the full potential of who you are and will ever be.

pretty  attractive  beautiful  cute  nice-looking  appealing  cool  sweet  spiritual  wise  nice  friendly  faithful  leader  strong  supportive  moral  ethical  principled  good  honest  decent  warm  loving  tender  warmhearted  demonstrative  caring  kind  affectionate  cordial  hospitable  welcoming  amiable  cheerful  passionate  fiery  enthusiastic  zealous  arrogant  egocentric  altruistic  sympathetic  humane  selfless  philanthropic  smart  dependent  free  gentle  thoughtful  domineering  submissive  autonomous  creative  compassionate  self-sufficient  private  liberated  conventional  objective  elegant  clever  stylish  intelligent  quick  charming  tidy neat  thoughtful  attentive  careful  watchful  alert  reliable  inspired  inventive  resourceful  ingenious  productive  exciting  energetic  lively  vigorous  bouncy  active  joyful  blissful  pleased  ecstatic  cheery  sane  rational  sensible  reasonable  normal  complete  capable  genuine  inspiring  proud  approachable  peaceful  honest  giving  nurturing  accomplished  whole  perfect  undivided  achiever  great  confident  compassionate  content  humble  unassuming  happy  satisfied  comfortable  at ease  relaxed  able  knowledgeable  skilled  proficient  expert  adept  rich  wealthy  affluent  prosperous  full  gorgeous  valuable  abundant  fruitful  powerful  deep  prolific  understanding  dynamic  useful  helpful  constructive  beneficial  positive  functional  worthwhile

Now count the number of words you circled in Step 1. This will be called the Total Potential Score.

Step 2: Now circle the words below that describe how you actually are at present.

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Now count the number of words you circled in Step 2. This will be called the Actual Self Score.

Step 3: Determine the percentage of difference between the two. The comparison will give you an early benchmark as to the health of your self-concept and the extent to which you are living true to yourself.