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November 8, 2005, 2:37 pm PST
Basic consideration for the other's feelings is lacking
Quote From: tamboyI agree with Natalie.
Communication is the key. My husband and I have been married for just shy of 8 years. We have a 14 year old daughter, and 13 and 6 year old sons. We don't enjoy alot of the same things, but we do make the attempts to try what the other is interested in once in awhile. And when it comes to changing tires, come on ladies....get with the program...it isn't rocket science. I can change a tire on my F-150 Supercrew 4x4 in under 10 minutes in the snow. My dad wouldn't let me get my drivers licence until I could change a tire. I also got tired of waiting for things to be fixed around the house so I have taught myself how to rewire lights, change and recode garage doors and how to use all of his power tools. I wanted the house painted, knew he wouldn't do, so I did it myself. He hates to watch movies, but he will take me to the movies once in awhile. I hate watching hockey on tv, but will sit with him and watch a game once in awhile because it is what he enjoys. All three kids play hockey and we try to always go to the games together. He plays hockey too a couple nights a week and I try to go watch him sometimes. He comes to watch me play volleyball sometimes too. We are not the same people that we were when we met, we have both changed. But we try to help each other through the changes instead of attacking each other. Talk to each other.
Tamie
I'm surprised at the rude way these people talk to the other person. I noticed it mostly from the women. Calling names and making rude statements like 'you are worthless' is not the way to talk to anyone. I wouldn't even talk to my dogs like that. Is it possible they think just because the person has the misfortune to have married them, they have a built-in victim? Could their parents have talked like that to them? It's no wonder the marriages are failing. I think a crash course in charm school or Basic Manners would solve a lot of their problems. When Dr. Phil said "If you had said that to me, you would be wearing those mushrooms" I agreed with him 100 percent. If anyone thought they had the right to talk to me like that, I would be out the door and never look back.
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