Quote From: aallene I somewhat agree...however, I think it's silly to give these couples gifts to begin with. Will they even appreciate them? I understand that they put themselves out there on national television, but they aren't even nice to each other and they are winning trips, etc. The only thing I feel they should be winning is counseling...but that's just me :)
Hello,
I know alot of people are saying that we did not deserve trips. I do not think Dr. Phil commended our actions at all, but he did see more to our side than what was aired. One of our biggest problems was that now I am a stay at home mom. We have one income and we are very busy with our children now that our daughter is very active in school activities. Even if we had the time we do not necessarily have the money to spend an evening out together. In my letter to Dr. Phil I told him I miss my husband, and we get in the rut of life, we get exhausted from our daily duties and we unfortunately take each other for granted. After awhile we DO start living our lives in a negative manner. My husband and I never took a honeymoon, or a vacation in the last 4 years of our relationship. Dr. Phil told us after the show that Tom and I were the inspiration to do the trips. Not to reward us for our awful behavior, but to give us time to reconnect again on another level. We can spend our time remembering why we got married. I can tell you the week in California together was amazing. I forgot that my husband was so fun to be around. We had a wonderful time and that has spilled over into our lives again. I know everyone has their own opinion, but please remember you only saw little pieces of our life. We talked with the producers everyday, all day long for 4 days and they only show you the negative fighting and bickering that we did on the show. My husband and I can get along very well, but it is getting fewer and fewer. I was begging Dr. Phil to show me how to "fall back in love with my husband". I think this was his answer, for us to spend "alone" time, without children, without work, and without our daily stress. I'm also a college student, so for us to take a trip that we can afford right now probably wouldn't happen for another 3 years. I don't think our relationship could handle that.
Thanks,
Nichole
