Quote From: saphy2My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Up to this point, we both made around the same amount of money. Splitting the finances 50/50 was fair and was working. He just took a job earning over 2x the amount as me.
The problem is that he thinks we should still split the bills 50/50, whereas I htink we should do it by percentage earned. If we continue to split the bills 50/50, I will not be an equal partner in this relationship. I will always be worried abou money while he is rolling in it. His protest is that he shouldn't be punished for making more money (??). I don't get that at all. I know if I was making the amount he is, I would feel as it I were contributing more to OUR household. Not my own pocket. For instance, when I buy items for our new apartment, it's not as if I feel he should pay half of the receipt. It benefits both of us.
I know he didn't grow up wealthy as a child, and that money is a big deal to him. In my opinion, too big.
Please help, this is starting to cause me a real problem.
Saphy
It is the same in with my family, and we do the percentage thing. The reason that we do this is because we understand that we are in the marriage together and our motto is "what is mine is yours, and what is your is mine". It wasn't like that at first, I had to keep reminding my husband that I don't just cook for myself and I don't clean only what I mess up. It's hard for some people to share, maybe they should focus teaching that in schools. A huge to desire to just OWN OWN OWN is not healthy for a person unless they can share.
