Replies to '08/02 "I Love Myself!"'

I've never message boarded anything in my life, but when I saw the previews to this show, I had to find out more information.  I never heard about NPD until my last boyfriend.  After we broke up, I spoke to a friend in the mental health business and he said the Ex sounded like he had NPD. I never new such a thing exhisted.  But, as I read more about the disorder, I felt as though someone had been following us around taking notes. The Ex fell into every category: gregarious, funloving, to controlling, aloof, blameshifting, emotionally abusive.  It wasn't until I was well away from the relationship that I was able to see it for what it was.  I've never been in an abusive relationship before, so I tended to rationalize and overlook many red (pink) flags.  Reading how other survivors reacted was also comforting, as that was textbook for me as well.  One book that was very helpful is "When You're Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong".  It's not clinical, but written from a survivor's point of view.  I hope Dr. Phil is able to address some of these issues, even though the subject at hand is a child.