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April 21, 2006, 11:22 pm PDT
04/21 Baby Wars
Quote From: jai149I have just recently just found out that I am pregnant with my third child. My husband and I had discussed the possibility of a third but had said we'd talk about it "later". My husband knew that I wasnt on any form of contraception, but was happy for us to have sex whenever he wanted to. Now that I am pregnant he is saying that it is my fault and that this baby is going to be my responability in full. Not to ask him to do a thing. Since we had our two gorgeous kids his life hasnt changed a bit. I do all the nappy changing, feeding, bathing - the list is endless. He hasnt even gotten up once during the night and our kids are 3 and 2. He still gets to go out with his friends, socialises and I am always left at home. I dont mind this, but is it too much to ask for the occasionally hand. I have an ultrasound next week and he wont even come to it with me. it really hurts me that he is rejecting this child. i have told him to get used to the idea or he knows where the door is. I love my husband very much, but to me his behavior is a deal breaker. Am I right in my thinking? What I should I be doing to make this work out for the best? And to make it easier for my other two children - My 3 year old is already picking up on what his father is saying and keeps telling me he doesnt want a baby. I just know what to do. I know where you are coming from with this. When I found out I was pregnant with our second child neither of us was happy about it, neither of us wanted another one yet. I came round before he did and I can remember trying my hardest not to hate him for his distant and cool attitude towards our baby. Yet, now that she has been here for 18 months, he is smitten. He had no interest in another child, until shortly before she was born, and even then his interest seemed to be minimal. But the day that little girl was born she became daddy's little girl and it has been wonderful to watch. So do let him know how you are feeling and that he is going to have to deal with it, but don't give up. As for you having to do most or all the work, I have no help on that, still trying to figure out how to break my husband of that. There have even been times where I have left him home with the children at night, after they go to bed, and gone out with friends and he has called me telling me to come home because our daughter woke up. I told him no and my bestfriend grabbed the phone after the 3 or fourth time and told him to deal with it himself because I dealt with it all day. For some reason he listened to her and I have not had a problem any time I have gone out since then, other than calling to ask where things are! Really, sometimes I think he would just be lost without me. He might be able to get dressed but that would be about it! :-P
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