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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

...However, he did opt for adoption, which does show concern and responsibility.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

I must agree with Matt

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

 I think it is sad that he does not feel any joy regarding his child but that is a moot point.  What if he had been thrilled with the idea of a baby and the girlfriend had elected to have an abortion?  What if he had gone to court to insist she not abort his child?  What would have happened then?  The poor child is caught in the middle but just because a baby is physically in the mother's body should not entitle her to more rights than the father.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:36 pm PDT

She played a bigger part

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

Hello I am a happily married mother of two and sorry but I have to agree with him.  If that man told her up front how he felt and she inturn decided to stay in this relationship then she is at fault.  When he told her this then she should have ended this relationship instead of taking this risk.  Instead she told him that she could not have children and plus taking the pill for extra precautions.  You are so right children are a wonderful gift,  when both are choosing to take the responsibility to take on the role as parents.   

  

Again she did not know that she was going to get pregnant but he should not have to pay for it. 

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:38 pm PDT

A CHILD IS ONLY A GIFT IF YOU WANT IT

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

I AGREE WITH MATT MEN ARE TREATED SO UNFAIR. WOMAN WE KNOW GOT PREGNANT,JUST TO GET OUT OF WORK. SHE SITS AT HOME WITH TWO OTHER GIRLS WITH KIDS.ONE ADULT AND TWO KIDS IN A SMALL ROOM. AND IN OHIO SHE WILL GET TO KEEP THIS KID. THE BOYFRIEND WANTED TO DO THE RIGHT STHING.SHE MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE. NOW HE WANTS TO ADOPT AND SHE WONT LET HIM. THIS IS A CONTROLING WOMAN AND THERE ARE LOTS OF THEM. MEN NEED MORE RIGHTS. WOMAN NEED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THERE ACTION. AND OUR SUPPORT COURTS,ARE OUT OF CONTROL. ONLY THOSE WITH A GOOD LAWYER WIN. HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILDREN.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:39 pm PDT

But did YOUUUUUUU lie?

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

It would be normal to feel crushed if you have had an open / honest discussion/decision about having children and then your partner backed out.  Matt did NOT get this choice ... which he surely deserved after HAVING the discussion.  Just because the baby is born, people expect that the child will be instantly loved and appreciated.  Instead, the girl's actions caused instant resentment and Matt surely feels trapped.  It's no different than when we women choose to abort when pregnancies come at the wrong times in OUR lives.  The guys, however, do not have that choice - and should NOT have been tricked into being a parent.  I'm very tired of reading all these postings about how GUILTY he should feel.... HOGWASH!!  -- she lied ... lied ... lied ... it is HER responsiblity.     

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:39 pm PDT

Beyond shock

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

I, too am pregnant and my fiance did not except it at first.  Not because he did not want the responsibility but because he believes in doing things in order.  He has definitely come around.    

I truly believe that women have carried the weight for far too long.  If my man is going to lay down with me, then he is agreeing to whatever happens.    

The most disturning thing about today's show is that the baby looks just like her father.  How could you not love your blood.  Like I told my fiance, a child is a blessing and you cannot tell God when you want your blessings...As I go through this pregnancy I am in amazement of how everything is progressing and I am so happy I did not do what he wanted me to do and I know he is still nervous but number one, he will never abandon his son and two, he will fall in love when he looks in his son's eyes and sees himself and the love that we created.  

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:45 pm PDT

Baby War

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

 OK...Young ladies (w/o HUSBANDS) watch out. If you decide to have unprotected sex w/boyfriends ,lovers and/or married men and get pregnant and the court approves this law, you better get a full time job, get a skill and be prepared to support your child on your own for the next 18 (sometimes more) years.
Maybe this will be a good thing. Young women will have to think twice before jumping into bed and  think about the consequences. Now they know that they can bring the baby's daddy to court for child suppose.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:47 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

The trouble is that women have an instinctive NEED to nurture. Men do not have this strong natural instinct; after all it is women who carry in pregnancy and breastfeed their babies; they are designed that way. The trouble is when a woman is so desperate to be a mother that she tricks an unwilling man into getting her pregnant . She should know that in so doing she will have to assume full responsibility for the baby. Then she can make up her mind whether it is worth it all. If a woman gets pregnant by mistake, which happens all the time, the father should have the right to refuse to support the baby if the mother will not either abort or give the baby up for adoption. I told my son as he got into his teens that as a 'man' he has to be so careful because the woman has all the rights. I told him that if a girl he has sex with gets pregnant he can be saddled for 21 years supporting that child; a BIG price to pay when he has ZERO power once a girl is pregnant. It is not fair but until the laws change and give equal rights to our boys, they are 'screwed'!
 


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