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maryjogriz

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September 9, 2005, 10:26 am PDT

Don't despair

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My ex asked me to give him what kind of visitation i think is appropriate in writing so I Did. He calls me and tells me that this won't work He is taking me to court. He wants to put my babies on an airplane by themselves and he wants me to pay for half. He says south west airlines will let them fly. I just am not comfortable with this idea. He moved away and didn't even care how this would affect them. I am so upset. I can't sleep. I need a lawyer and can't afford one and i just don't know how to handle this. Hopefully he is just being a jerk and get over it but last time he threatened me with court he followed through and i still proved my point even though he got a lawyer. I just can't understand why he would do this to our children. Him and his new wife make nearly 90,000 dollars a year i barely made 12,000 last year. Now he has quit his job and probably won't send support payments like he did with his other son before our two children. All i can think of is the bills piling up and i don't know what to do.

He sounds controlling and you sound controlled. Was your ex abusive?

Have you contacted anyone from the child support agency?

I am in no real position to say relax because I am a single mother myself. However, I've been dealing with a controlling husband. Most of the time he is full of hot air. Though the times he isn't...he is full force. Which ends up back firing on him -not me. What happens to me: I freak out, worry, and plead. Looking back, I'd be more relaxed. Everything comes out in the wash.

I would take a deep breathe and review the situation. Is he doing this because he really wants to see them? Is he just trying to make you jump? Either way, you have parental rights also. The only thing you can do is find out facts from the authorities and document everything.

I hope this helps.

Mary

P.S.(I know it is not as easy as it seems. Your situation is unique to anyone else. People not in it ---need to understand that!! Sorry, just had to say that. Lots of people looking outside end up having swift opinions and I don't want to be that person.)