Quote From: jasmamaus my 11-year old son is constantly calling people names. and i mean everyone- his siblings, cousins, other childrens' friends, even me. things like "stupid" and "freak" are his favorites. i do not know how to stop this behavior. i have ignored it, discussed it with him, and tried taking away things he enjoys. nothing seems to work. ideas?
She has bipolar, ptsd, and anxiety disorder. She is the queen of backtalk.
My problem is she doesn't get the consequence thing. No matter what I do she doesn't get it.
My best weapon was a behavioral contract. I printed the one from Dr. Phil's book Family FIrst.We use that.
When things get so out of control I strip her room. I mean EVERYTHING except her bed and a weeks worth of clothes, that I picked. I think some of the problem with children today is they just get everything. They have everything. Once I took all my daughters things she had to earn them back. She had a point system and every 10 points she got to go into the storage room and get one item. This way they have to "work" at their behavior and it takes a long time to get everything back.
You have to find what works for you but if you lay everything out in a contract (get your childs input as well this makes them feel involved not punished at the get go) everyone sign it and then review every so often.
Because of my daughters illness I had to include small things like showering everyday and taking her meds.
We put in things that were to be done daily, behaviors that we wanted to see, ones we didn't and then listed privledges for doing good and consequences for bad behaviors. This is so awesome because then you eliminate the confrontation of disipline. All I do is look at the contract and tell her what the consequence is and thats it.
Tammy
