Quote From: momof4galsI am having issues with my 13 year old daughter. Sort of like you're dealing with in regards to your son.
Currently they are in Alaska on a visit to family. All her and her older sister do is fight, verbally.
Like you I've taken stuff away, grounded blah blah. You know the routine :)
I was thiking today that both seem to take things for granted. They have been allowed 1 hour on the internet a day. Well, I know they both love the internet so what better weapon for me?
I've decided when they get back that they'll have to earn their internet time. They'll be allowed to check their emails but aside from that they get no internet time UNLESS they don't back talk, don't fight, don't argue, no name calling, do their chores etc. They can earn 10 minutes - not to exceed 60 minutes. Also, I've decided that if they earn time then do something bafoonish I'll deduct time.
Perhaps something like that will work with your son? Maybe with tv or whatever he REALLY enjoys?
sorry, I was actually trying to respond to jasmamaus but hit the wrong button :)
However, when my eldest (nearly 20) was hitting puburty the one thing I found the most helpful was talking. Everyday I'd spend one on one time with her. Granted, girls hitting puberty is a tad bit different then a boy but really, be available to answer questions. If you're not comfortable with that there are lots of books out there geared towards pre-teens that you might find helpful to hand over to your son :)
