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Wow, I think I fit into this forum atm....

Well I went through this before with an ex-bf....

If you really have respect for your mother you should sit down and talk to her alone about this whle thing and tell her how you feel and then do the same with your bf. If you have a great relationship with your mum you definately DO NOT uner ANY CIRCUMSTANCE want to throw it away for some guy.

Don't move away on account of his dis-like of your mother that's your MOTHER, he should respect her as your mum, a lady and a human being.

First I would like to say that I have never posted anything on here before but was thinking that maybe someone might be able to give me some words of advice. I saw your post and it reminds me of  a little of my relationship. My mom absolutely hates my boyfriend and as much as he trys to get along with her she just pushes him away. He agreed to stay here with me and try to work things out with my mom but she just kept making it harder and harder on both of us.  He stayed here for around 6 months and tried to get a job but nothing was working out for either of us. He ended up going back home, which was a good thing because his dad's not doing so good so he needs to be there for him but i hate the situation because I dont' get to see him very much at all. We've been together for almost 9 months now and I can tell you that it's not easy being away from him, but it's working. My mom is kinda getting used to it she still hates but she's getting used to the idea. Once I finish college then I'm moving there to be with him. I still love my family and they are important to me and I don't want to lose them and I dont' want to lose him either, so I had to compromise and get a little bit of both even though it's hard.

     So to answer your question should he stay and try to and cope or should he move back. I don't know if my answer will really help or not but from what you were saying he really loves you and I think that he would be willing to stay and try to work things out. If things don't really seem like they are going right which you'll know if they aren't then maybe you might consider moving with him? i know this probably didnt' help much but maybe hearing someone with the situation that are in will help you to understand. I know that it has helped me to know that I'm not the only one that is in a situation like this and that it's hard to deal with but being able to talk to others about it helps me. if you ever need to talk about this you can message me and I can try to help as best as I can.