Dear Cheri
I am 45 years young today and I was first diagnosed with MS at 42 years of age. . I have worked in health care as a nurse assistant, nurse and paramedic. I ended my last job as a administrative medical assistant. I could no longer do the jobs I used to on account of my illness which is multiple sclerosis.
When I recieved the final word of the diagnosis after months of tests and a trip to the ER , lumbar puncture confirmed the bad news. I was at a loss. Everything slowly began to end. It felt like the end of the world.
I saw recently on the Dr. Phil show, where a husband stated that he did not sign up for this.
Caring for his wife with a chronic illness. I got news for him and for others who feel like they got something that they didn't ask for , Here is a news flash ""well the person who has it didn't ask for it either " !!!
There are no guarantees in life. If, the husband had this illness he would expect the wife to help him out. I am sure she would. Why can't he show her support. She sidn't ask for this. Like me, if we had a choice of illnesses to chose from this would not be it.
We all don't have picture perfect bodies that work well all the time. He could get a brain tumor or cancer, and it would be something the wife didn't ask for. Would he want her to leave him because he is ill.? of course not. This is pretty much what he is saying to her..
When he took the marriage vows did he not hear the phrase "in sickness and in health." ? It did not say if you become ill the marriage is over.
I am surprised at people who show their faces on live TV and make stupid statements like this. It shows others just how shallow and self involved and unintelligent you are as person.
I'd be embarrassed to be associated with a person like this or be married to someone. . NOBODY IS PERFECT, OR HAVE THE PERFECT BODY OR IN A PERFECT SITUATION. When, you marry someone its not for the present and everything is fine and well. Its for better and for worse. Unfortunately she got dealt a bad card in the deck, just like I did in having MS
So for the husband, get over yourself and grow up. She does not like this illness either.
I ended a 12 year relationship with a man who said that he did not sign up for this caring for a person who is ill Well, I didn't sign up for Multiple Sclerosis, either.
I have the remitting and relapsing form of MS. Staying with him would make it worse and more hospitals stays due to the excaberations I was having due to the stress I was under. Since, I have ended the relationship with him over 2 years ago now. I have not been in the hospital due to pressure and stress I was under with him and trying to do everything. It was not happening. I could not do everything and I watched a show the Dr Phil had one day It wasn't happening for me and I was not getting any better and it wasn't working for me. So, I asked a family member to come and get me and I went back one day to collect my things with my brothers and I was gone.. I am better or I should say exarcabition free and very little stress and I am back with my family and old friends and I have a new love . There is light at the end of the tunnel
