Quote From: jonesaprHi, I am 28 and have been living with the same man for 3 1/2 years and have been dating for 4 1/2 years. I tried to bring up the marriage subject around 2 years and again at 3 years. It has not come up sense. What do I do? I don't want to push him because I know that is what his last girlfriend did and he can't stand her now. What do I do or what can I say to break this already thin ice? Please help.
I'm not saying break up with him..just find your own place. Give him time to figure out if he's ready to take the relationship to the next level. No amount of asking will make him ready if he isn't. He needs to feel what it's like not to have you there cooking dinner, waking up next to him and washing his clothes. Personally, I don't believe in shacking up; the man receives all the benefits without making the commitment. My question to you is...how long will you stay in this relationship? Will you stay another 3 1/2 years? During your separation, you should be asking yourself whether HE is really the man for you? Frankly, If he doesn't know after 4 1/2 years that you are "The One", then why waste your time any longer. At some point you will want to have kids, no? I don't want to see you end up like so many women; 36 years old and unmarried because they spent the last 5-10 years with a man (or men) who had no intention of making them a bride.
Good luck!!! I hope it all works out for the best (no matter what that may be).
