Replies to '04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues'

This is one of the reasons why abused and battered women stay and don't leave.

I am a woman. However, I understood you. I did something similar to what you are doing now. I got it over. I recovered. God bless you to get it over as well. I am soo sorry to see how you are suffering. You will get it over. Please, believe me that it is possible. It will be a time when you will feel good.

WHAT??? Are you serious?  She cheated on him once before while he was in Florida, and the guy was still there, and you're worried about her getting hurt?  Where was her worry when she was naked in HIS HOUSE with another man?  And how worried was she when her sex partner beat the crap out of him?

She's doing this to build a case, and she got it.  Now she'll get alimony and child support for three kids because of his abuse....that's a lot of money!  Everyone looks upon the stupid things he's doing which is causing her pain distress.  But how muc pain  is invovled to know that the wife you are married to (Or husband) is laying naked on the bed you shared for more than 11 years?  And where were the kids????

He is over the top and I too agree that he needs help.  However, solitude and time are the only things that can help him.  He will get lonely and miss his past; his wife and his children.  In time, when the pain is gone, he'll deal with scars the rest of his life, especially with his ex-wife constantly controlling him for more money.  And any amount of happiness he tries to attain, his ex-wife will hammar him with more expenses until he can no longer support himself, or his new family.

I don't believe this relationship can be healed....it's a gone deal.

But she shouldn't have put herself first ahead of her family....she caused this, though he should have controlled himself.

I really enjoyed reading what you wrote. I think that she will be as safe when she leaves. This man is only powerful because she is giving him permission. Once a man like this one loses his power, I am only 24 years old but I have been through enough to know that he won't continue. Her fear is provoking him because some men seek this. When a woman starts screaming or feels fearful they become stronger. Their goals to hurt them become stronger. Do you remember the stories of Cinderella? She got locked up, and her step mother no longer had power once she was free. I think that that is the lesson of that story, but I think that there are many others as well, of course I change that around when I am around kids:) This works the same way. She is free once she says and continues to say no. The problem is that he will move on to another girl. The more powerful he feels the more dangerous that he becomes. He would have already done something more to Jennifer and his kids if he was going to, this is just a game to him, and she needs to stand up for herself, but he needs to go away in this case for her to do that, and that is one of the reasons why he is doing what he is doing so that he can control and manipulate because this is the way that he likes to live his life.

This man is crazy she is scared of him & I know somewhat how she feels

My aunt was murdered by just a boyfriend. she had a restraining order for him but this little piece of papper just helped egnight the flame he used to burn and kill her...