Quote From: dianeja
Sometimes I wish that was the problem but here is my problem: My husband and I have been married for almost 21 years. During that time he has taken money from a worker/friend to see me coming out of the shower with no clothes on. He has set up a threesome with another coworker from the next job that he went to. I told him that I wasn't interested but he picked out linguree for me to wear that night. We have four kids ages 15,17,19 and 21. Now of course the 21 year old is very seldom here but he is always with the 19 year old working he says. He doesn't sleep with me we have no llife together at all. Which is worse too much or None at all............
These extremes that you talk about....obsessive love.....and the life that you describe with your husband .... are the same.
Your husband is an abuser... he is sexually abusing you. He's abusing you emotionally, verbally and attempting to abuse you physically also.
He is disrespecting and its demeaning he is abusing you over and over again. His coercion, his force, intimidation bullying is more than oppression and cruelty.
This is criminal activity.
Who in hell would want someone like that to sleep with them, not and have respect for themselves at all. ?
Both of the examples that you refer to are horrid and abusive, none of it is love.
