Replies to 'Violence in School'

I am the mom of a 13 year old.  She is an honor student and belongs to several organizations which she works hard at and has gained friendships across the US.  She knows what she likes and we have always supported her interests.  Don't get me wrong, she's not perfect,  but does okay.    She has had a "friend" since she was 3 years old--On and off.  This child has spent numerous weekends with my family along with family trips. 

The friend has been raised as a "princess" that can do no wrong in her parents eyes.  Her mom is a "volunteer" at school who's reasoning for being there is to get her children through the day.  This girls are at the age where mom cannot tell them to go out onto the playground and be nice to everyone.  They are realizing what kind of people they like being around. 

This mom will stop at nothing to force friendships onto these children.  She repromands them at school----Which does not work any more.   She calls meetings with their parents in her home at night, which also does not help any more.    Mom has gotten right to the top with teachers who also treat this little girl special.  During this process she has wormed her daughter undeservingly into several school organizations which she does not deserve.  Mom and daughter think these things will give them instant friendship with the classmates.  But, each time it backfires and upsets the students who worked for what they got.

They do not get it and they will not stop.  Parents have followed my lead on telling the kids to ignore her and stay away from her.  School authorities have also seen what is going on an suggested the same.  We all thought this would end it.  But it only became worse with child and mom.  She will go through all of the kids being nice for a short period of time hoping one of them will give in and be her friend, but they do not do it any more.  She is very self-centered and critical of the other girls, wants everything to be all about her as she was raised as a princess.  These people need to come down to earth and see that they are going about it the wrong way.  She contacts them after school, only to tell them that she has better friends(which is not true) and tells one of them each day that she hates them.  She is very outspoken and does not back down even though she is alone.  There has been some physical force this past week.  It's like I can see it all.  She wants so desparatelt to fit in.  BUt she will have to chooses her own interests and not just want to be in a club that she knows nothing about to try to get a friend.     I have seen it for a long time.  Now other parents are not as calm as I have been.  There are restraining orders in progress for the mom.  This is disrupting lives now and I agree that something must be done.

But, how do you get it done???  School officials have told me that they are not moving very quickly and "keeping their fingers crossed' that it can stay under control until summer!!!!!  What kind of logic is that????  Also despite several attempts to have appt. at the school board, we cannot.  This is due to the fact that they have much bigger fish to fry with problems that are going on there.  Oh and of corse this little princess' dad happens to work there.  So we have decided we are useless!   Ever heard of La. Politics?????  Nothing like it!!!!!!

As I nurse this never occurred to me that this childs desperation has escalated so much over the past few months.  She's a kiss up to teachers(as she was trained) but I have seen a very evil side.  My daughter mentioned yesterday that she has got to be bi-polar!!!  Not til then did I realize, duh, that this is exactly the kind of thing that is going on across the US.   I'm still angry about it, but have become concerened about the health of these children.  This child only knows life in a dream world and now it is hitting her in the face.  Very sad child.  Very confused.  Mom pumps her up each night to bust up into the middle of this group and say I am here, I'm staying and you will be my friend.  Then it never works.  How can these parents not see what they are doing to this child???  These are not babies anymore.  And what has years of unacceptance done to this beautiful child?  I just woke up and realized I should be afraid.  On our local news weapons are found on elementary students a couple of times a month.  What could happen right here in our small quiet town???  And how can we prevent it when everone with authority is wanting to ignore it??

Nice example-------My phone just rang, it was the local District Attourneys Office.  They left a message.  Calling about my sons excessive school absenses.  We are big with the kids in 4-H and they show cattle often and sometimes during the week.  He is in first grade, has a 4.0 average, has the mentality of about a 6th grader if I do say so myself!   All of his abcenses are excused in writing from the LSU-Agriculture Center.  

The teacher have explained before that this is just a formality----And the DA's Office is not aware of the excuses because this is computer generated!!!!!!!!!!  So this whole commotion is for absolutely nothing!  Why aren't they working on criminal matters???  Why can't they discuss these older kids who could very well be shot or killed this week????