Replies to '08/28 "Who Am I?"'

I was adopted at the age of 4 months, and I have always known that I was adopted.  It never bothered me; it was just how my life was.  The story I was told was age-appropriate, and as I got older, the story became more realistic.  The bottom line of my adoption story is that I was WANTED by my adopted family, as opposed to NOT wanted by the mom and dad who gave me up.  I never felt bad about it, until I found both sides of my biological family and found I was the only child either one of my parents had.  Now the only thing I feel bad about is that I have no siblings, and I feel truly alone in the world.  I also found the truth from my dad's side of the family, which was that my mom's family forced her to give me away.  My mom and dad wanted to get married and make a family, but it was not to be (they were both teenagers).  To me, even though I was given up, they too, DID want me.  That helps a little. 

I don't really know what to say about family secrets, but I hope what I had to say helps somewhat.

I was given' up for adoption when I was a few months old. My parents told me as soon as I was able to understand. I think i must have been 7 years old at the most . I think it was even younger really.  I never had a problem with that.  In fact, most of the adopted kids me and my parents know seem to do alright if you tell them as soon as they can understand.  It seems to be when they are almost teenagers  or adults that they take it really hard and rebel. It's as if you were lying to them all their lives.  I would have felt that way if my folks would have waited till i was an adult.  I remember playing outside and mom called me in and told me about being adopted and what it meant.  I could have cared less and asked if we were done so i can go back outside to play. I must look at things different than most.  I thank god that I was adopted by a good family.  I never wanted for anything and they loved all of us unconditionally.  I have looked for relatives but not very hard.  I wouldn't want to hurt my mom's feelings plus I wouldn't want to interrupt anyone's life.  Tho' it would be cool if i could find out if i do have parents living or even siblings.  I would like to watch them from a distance just to see if they look like me. I'm 40 years old just so you know.