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May 22, 2007, 12:40 pm PDT

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I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

I hate you are so bitter about this.  I'm not sure if I understand - but it sounds like you're saying your mother gave you up for adoption and later gave birth to your brother but gave him up for adoption also.

 

I can't relate to your feelings about being adopted but I can relate to adopted children.  I have adopted two children which are full brother & sister (same biological mom & dad).  Several people have made comments to me about the birth mother being horrible because she gave two children up for adoption but I have to say - I admire her.  She knew she could not care for these children and she cared enough to give them up.  My children are still young (4 y/o & 1 y/o) but I have already found the birth parents.  I am saving all the contact information for them because I'm sure the day is coming that they will want to meet their birth parents.  I have told my oldest child about being adopted although she doesn't fully understand now, she will in time.  I think honesty is the best thing in this situation.  I don't think there should be family secrets because it never stays a secret.  It always comes out in the end & the consequences are always worse than if everyone would have been honest from the beginning.

 

I hope you can get past your feelings about your mother & things will get better for you.  Good luck!
 
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May 24, 2007, 7:20 am PDT

who am I?

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I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

I watched the show today about the young woman who's mother left and started a whole new family.....forgetting all about her first family....I was surprised that Dr. Phil never once asked about the mothers emotional health???My mother left behind 4 little girls..from the age of 7 down to 3 months old.....She had a history of manic depression...and I was so lost as a little girl....My dad had help with raising us with his parents taking us all in.....I was 2 years old at the time of the seperation......my dad never dated while raising us......my mom remarried two years after divorcing my dad.....I was named after my mother...so I felt like all my dads family thought less of me because I had the same name as the woman who hurt my dad so much.......My mother over the years had visited us......and we had some contact with her......but she ended up marrying a sexual perpitrator.....he molested their daughters...and me as a teen ager......I could go on and on.....(but I won't) There are reasons women leave their children.......when they cannot cope with reality.....it is hard enough to take care of themselves let alone 4 small children.....I forgave her as I grew up and realized she was mentally incompatent to raise children...Her 2nd family that she did raise is proof to that......

She gave up my half brother at birth when her husband and she had broken up....she had been involved with someone else and got pregnant.....We found my brother at the age of 31 years old......My mother had two major nervous break-downs during her 2nd marriage.....and was on lithium to help her with her emotional well being......I too ....am clinically depressed, and I realize the struggles she had as a young woman because I struggled too......Maybe the next time Dr. Phil will ask the parents what their mental health was like......Women don't give up their children unless something mentally is really wrong......Please don't be so hard on the mother...she was trying to survive......it may not have been the right way in her daughters eyes......but her dad did a great job as both mother and father......and so did mine.......maybe her mom knew he would be the better parent......and did her a favor....I know mine did....I wouldn't have wanted to be raised by her....she was really messed up at times.....and her children suffered the conciquences.....My mom is deceased now.....and I am 54 yrs old......but as we got older we became mother and daughter...and I was blessed to live with her her final years of life......taking care of her and being the daughter I always wanted to be....
 
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May 24, 2007, 11:24 am PDT

05/24 "Who Am I?"

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I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

Fall in love with yourself.  Many of us need what is not present in our lives.  The point is..do we sit and cry in our beer of life?  Or do we find the good in ourselves and go on to make something of our lives.  If your parents didn't have the strength to raise you...you don't know how lucky you are.  You're still alive(weak people kill their offspring)..so today should be the first day of the rest of your life.
 
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May 24, 2007, 2:09 pm PDT

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Quote From: familymatters

I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

I am 36yrs and if I was sitting in the same room with my father I would not know.  I was born in the Republic of Panama to a soldier in the army I believed he was in the airborne unit in 1970, july .  His name is Willie Rudolph Jones and he was born in Richmond Virginia.  I know that his father was James Jones and I believed his mother name is Emma May Jones.  My father was born in the month of November date I believed is 1st or 2nd.  I mostly believed that it is the Second.  I have always cried for him and I feel that something is missing.  I was born in the city of Colon My mom name is Margie.  I also have a brother who is his child.  I wonder all the time if he ever think of me, he had miss so much and know his grandkid will be born and I wont have an answer for him.  I feell so lost but most people believed that you should just get over it. I just cant is not that easy.  If anyone know this person please let me know. I am still trying to find him.  I have a lot more information.
 
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May 24, 2007, 2:11 pm PDT

I am lost too

Quote From: familymatters

I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

I am 36yrs and if I was sitting in the same room with my father I would not know.  I was born in the Republic of Panama to a soldier in the army I believed he was in the airborne unit in 1970, july .  His name is Willie Rudolph Jones and he was born in Richmond Virginia.  I know that his father was James Jones and I believed his mother name is Emma May Jones.  My father was born in the month of November date I believed is 1st or 2nd.  I mostly believed that it is the Second.  I have always cried for him and I feel that something is missing.  I was born in the city of Colon My mom name is Margie.  I also have a brother who is his child.  I wonder all the time if he ever think of me, he had miss so much and know his grandkid will be born and I wont have an answer for him.  I feell so lost but most people believed that you should just get over it. I just cant is not that easy.  If anyone know this person please let me know. I am still trying to find him.  I have a lot more information.
 
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August 25, 2007, 10:08 am PDT

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Quote From: familymatters

I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

Dear Green EYES,

YOUR LETTER REALLY TOUCHED ME, ONE THING I'D LIKE TO KNOW, DO YOU HAVE ADOPTED MOTHER AND FATHER NOW..WHO ADOPTED YOU?

IF YES, THAT'S ALL YOU NEED. SEEMS LIKE YOUR BIOLOGICAL MOTHER WASN'T TO GOOD AT BEING A MOM, TO YOU OR YOUR BROTHER.

I KNOW EVERYONE WANTS TO KNOW THERE REAL BLOOD PARENTS BUT, IF YOUR ( ADOPTED PARENTS ) ARE LOVING AND CAREING PEOPLE THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS, THEY LOVE YOU AND TOOK CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU WERE SICK AND HURT AND COULDN'T SLEEP... THAT'S WHAT A PARENT IS, IT'S NOT THAT THEY GAVE BIRTH TO YOU.

GOD GAVE YOU NEW PARENTS SO CHERISH THAT, AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE ONE WHOM GAVE YOU AWAY.

PLEASE DON'T BE BITTER, GOD DOES THINGS FOR A REASON!!!!!  YOU ARE A SPECIAL PERSON YOU WERE CHOSEN!

GOD BLESS YOU AND MAY HE COMFORT YOUR HEART.........
 
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August 28, 2007, 2:28 pm PDT

Go on with your life

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I am 45 yrs old and I still ask the question of : WHO AM I....

I met my bilogical mother some years ago, but I have yet to get information on WHO IS MY FATHER.

Thsi is a very touchy topic for many as such my self fore being complete as a being a human being.  Nature has its ways of playing with the emotions of oneself and I am still allowing the game to go on in my heart and mind wich by the way is effecting my mind.

My emotions towards my "mother" is an if I talk to you I do and if I don't its no great loss.

 

I deeply know she knows what I should know and she won't say.

Oh!, by the way "mother"  is doing the same thing to my brother who she as well gave away for adoption many years ago as well.  What a lovely pattern this woman has and what a way for us her children to have too live. There is more to this story but the more I write the bitter I get about this woman who is "mother."  Now if only  I knew who Dad was than just maybe I'll see and feel who I AM... The true fact of WHO AM I starts with what I AM.

I have green eyes and Im light skin who can pass for a spanish woman or as "mother" says I am half black.  Ok does that explain why I have curly that needs a perm here and there? NO IT DOESN'T!!!!!! What it tell me is that there is an answear to my question and "mother" is in control of it. Shame on you "mother."

Honey, find what you need from yourself.  Don't let these people define you.  I found my biological mother when i was in my thirties.  Thank goodness I had the self esteem and maturity to deal with them.  You might not want to know who 'daddy' is.  My daddy is my uncle!  That could've been left out of the conversation.  It took moving and changing everything to get away from these people.  You will never fill the 'empty space' from anyone but yourself.
 
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