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October 8, 2005, 6:01 am PDT
Parents who don't discipline their children
Quote From: irishmom I couldn't help but offer my opinions on these controversial questons. As far as breastfeeding in public, I have to say that I was very nervous when my daughter was born because I didn't think I would feel comofortable breastfeeding in public, but it's different once you have your baby. I think that there are two extremes when it comes to breastfeeding in public. Breastfeeding is natural and beautiful, not to mention essential to your child's health and well-being. However, we do need to hold some standards of modesty in public. I believe it's perfectly ok to breastfeed in public, as long as you are covered up. I always kind of cringe when I see the woman who walks into the grocery store with a baby on her breast, baring it all for the world to see. To me, breastfeeding is something sacred and should be done with some sort of modesty out in public.
I DO NOT think that schools should be handing out condoms. That is sending the WRONG message to children and I don't think it's the school's place. Parents should be teaching their children about sex. I think when we leave such topics up to a school to teach, there's bound to be chaos. Our schools have enough trouble teaching our children in reading and writing. Leave sex education up to the parents. There are other places that children can get condoms if they so wish to do so. (such as Planned Parenthood).
I also do not belive that anyone else has a right to discipline your child if you are there. If your child is with another parent and you are not there, they need to be able to discipline your child. However, it would be a good idea to discuss acceptable discipline methods ahead of time. I think if you are out in public and your child is acting up, it is nobody else's business to step in. I know there have been many times I have WANTED to step in, but to do so would be rude and really wouldn't solve a thing except to offend the parent, which in turn would probably make things worse for the child! If you see a parent abusing their child, however, then it MAY be appropriate to say somthing. I do not have children, so people think I should have no opinion on discipline. However, every Sunday when I am at church and the same children continue to act up and their parents continue to do nothing, I get extremely frustrated. I am not talking about a baby who is hungry or wet that is crying. I am talking about children who are old enough to understand when to be quiet if they are taught. I feel that it is extremely rude to the priest and to the other parishioners who are there to worship, not listen to unruly children. The worst part is, we have a crying room where parents can take the children so the parents don't have to miss the mass. I have spoken to the priest about it and he said in the past when anything has been mentioned to parents, they say if their child is not welcome, neither are they. They are totally missing the point. As Dr. Phil pointed out on the show, there are times when you can teach the children about public behavior and private behavior. I don't get upset with the children, I get upset with the parents for not doing their job. And if you have no control over your children, then get a babysitter. I have been to many events where children should not have been present, but were. Children do not have long attention spans and cannot be expected to sit quietly for hours on end. When will these parents realize this?
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