Quote From: jlthomas04I have to say that I understand completely. I was in an abusive relationship for a year and it really woke me up. No one could understand why it was hard to get away, because they make you feel like they're the only one that can satisfy you and love you. In her situation she had kids involved, and dispite her feelings, she needs to be thinking of her kids. Even though her husband has that control over her, and I know what that's like, I would be dead before someone would hurt my children. If a man would kill me, what makes her think that he couldn't hurt his children? I honestly understand everything because it took me a long time to get away from my ex. He lied constantly and cheated and abused me verbaly and eventually physically and it took me awhile to wake up and see what he was doing to me and that he was never going to change. I see the same thing in this guy. She really needs to wake up also, and realize that she could be that concrete beneath his feet.
Unfortunately there are many woman in sitiuations of abuse and tjhey do not even realize it. I thank you for sharing your light of hope with others. My mother-in-law was in a similar second marriage but has ended after 20+ years through her I learned so much. My mother is in a similar situation but stays because my dad can not help it he is "sick"("mental illness)... I just hope that someone or many people took something away from the Nanny affair part 2 episode. I do not think that the mother invovled is dumb or blind... I think she is just numb. A women explained it to me once like this it like you are a prisoner of war. Your mind and thinking is so warped that you do not know what to do but survive in surviaval mode. Fogged thinking, fogged reality... to get through eat day is a struggle where you feel like you are hanging on to any shred of hope by your finger nails. May bridges of encouragement build between the dysfunction and function. People do not be afraid to succed...allow yourself to heal... the only person u can change is yourself, and you have choices everyday! Smiles and Hugs!
