Quote From: breezeeYes, I too found the courage a little over 2 years ago to leave my controlling, abusive husband. At the time, it felt like the hardest thing I'd ever done. In hindsight, because I did not deal with what was happening to us then, I see now that the healing process is even more challenging than getting the courage to leave. So on my worst days, I try to look back at where I was and how far I've come.
I am 47 and very much understand how hard it is to start your life over again. You are right, we did give our love and lives over to men who did not care or even remotely love us BUT somehow we overcame that and escaped, didn't we! Since I've read and heard so many stories of women who are still living with their abusers, this makes me realize I am much stronger than I give myself credit for.
I am very proud of you, myself and all the others who are in the process of starting over, healing and learning to love ourselves again.
I know how you feel I have been in a unhappy, controling, verbal abusive marriage for forty yrs, have tried and tried to get out . I always seem to come back , cause I have no family or formal training to make it on my own and feel according to him no one would want a dummy un skilled person like myself. I am a emotional wreck. We have three kids and they are grown and all have problems now after being in this dysfunctional situation because I was so weak and couldnot get them out ..
I am so proud I watched this show and logged onto Dr. PHil , what I have read has helped me in so many ways.
I know I have a long road but I am going to take control of my life.
thanks for listening and reading my post today/
Brooke
