Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

First of all, have you and your fiance spoken to his parents about how you feel.  Have they told "YOU" why it is they dislike you. And if so, just let them know that even though they dis-approve of you two getting married, You want them to be a part of the wedding as all parent should be, but they need to understand that their son loves you enough to marry you and they should respect that. If they are still unable, inform them that you will be there when they change their minds. It could be a hard process, but letting them know that you are not going to let them break up your wedding could make them take a step back and re-evaluate their doings. Believe me I know, my in-law were the same way. My husband is from Africa and his family was TOTALLY against him marrying me. But after some time, they understood that they could no longer control what their son does and backed off. I am now happy to call them Mom and Dad. 

I am in the same boat as you but it's MY parents that don't like my fiance..... we have been dating for 3 years now and got engaged this past Christmas... when I told my parents they were not happy at all.... they say I can do SO much better, but I love him and want to be with him. We have 2 kids and 1 on the way and I couldn't be happier. I mean sure we have our fights but what couple doesn't?? They were getting on my nerves so much about him that I just got up and moved away from where we were....I used to live in Manitoba, Canada and now I am living in Alberta. It makes me feel like my parents don't want me to be happy at all... his parents are very supportive of me and were VERY happy when we told them we were engaged!! I don't know what it is about parents today.... they way I see it is if your kid is happy BE HAPPY FOR THEM cause if that is the person they love and want to be with that is the one they are going to be with and seeing how 18 years of age you are considered an adult they really have no say in whom you want to spend you life with.... I let my parents make my every move till I was 19 and now they see I' living my life the way I want to live my life and they are finally realizing they have no say...I have a family now with this guy and I can't be any more happier then what I am!!!    

And as for you I think you guys should just go on living your life...if they love their son then one day they will come around and see who YOU really are and that you are not the bad person they think you are!!! Just hang in there.....   

Hi Bridget,

I'm a fairly young mom of an 18 year old son. I'm sorry your not getting the respect it sounds like you deserve from your fiancee's parents. The only thing I can think of is if my son announced he was getting married to anyone at this point in time I would have a difficult time accepting it. I wouldn't be disrespectful of the person he felt he loved enough to marry, but I would be concerned. The two of you are so very young and there are so many experiences you have yet to experience before marriage. Yes experience them together, explore things together, just not married, yet. I don't want to sound like someone who doesn't understand where you're at, I just remember very vividly how very much I thought I "knew exactly what I wanted" when I was your age and come to find out, I didn't really have a clue. Wow, life changes so dramatically, in a blink of an eye. Is there any way the two of you could wait a year or two? If you're going to be together forever anyway, why not have "dating" time first? I sincerely wish you the best of luck.