Replies to '12/31 Faking It?'

Dr. P,

I've been writing to you and Oprah (as I am an incest survivor) about the fraud of a second marriage that my husband strategized and calculated so that he could protect himself financially AFTER he had taken everything from me after our 1st divorce. My 2nd divorce just became final and he had the nerve to put the words in the divorce decree that I cannot pursue and charges against him concerning fraud, deception or calculation strategy of this second marriage. He is STILL strategizing!

With my career, and the "things" we gained from it; his net worth is now over one million dollars.  I am on the food stamp program and permanently disabled due to Severe Major Depression w/Dythsyimia, PTSD, Panic Disorder & Anxiety Disorder.  I have not worked since 1993 and now am $39,000 in debt to the equity of my home, the only thing I have left ... He has our retirement home on Cape Cod, free of any mortgage, a beach home on the Connecticut shoreline, free of any mortgage and yet he courted me after the first divorce, and I will take the responsibility of allowing myself to open my shattered heart to him and fall in love with him based on verbal promises of fulfilling our original dreams of the 1st marriage that lasted 23.5 years.Ten days before we were to marry the second time, he put a pre-marital agreement in front of me and said that he couldn't marry me if I didn't sign it.... but "of course, I'll never divorce you ..." We married December 4, 2003. Last September 12, 2006, the Sheriff knocked on my door and there was an envelope with my name on it. I have been served. I am being sued for divorce.

Dr. P. I was in shock. I literally could not move away from the door for. I read only the first half of the first page. That's all I needed to read. I don't know how long I stood behind that closed door thinking to myself "But he promised me he loved me and would love me until the day he died; he allowed me to meet and care for my "grandchildren" then tore them away from me; he told me he would love and care for me always; he told me he wanted to grow old together. What happened?

It was at that point, I held the papers as far above my head as possible as I have a broken neck & said out loud to God: "God, I can't do this anymore. You HAVE to take this from me. Whatever is the result of this divorce I will accept it because I know it will have come from You. I surrender my entire life into Your precious hands." 

The divorce became final September 13th, 2007. These two divorces are very much affecting my future, the possibility of losing my home, oh, btw: I'm first generation Italian and recvd no support from any of my family because divorce is unacceptable; at the first divorce my father told me "never to come back to his house ever again!"  I replied "Don't worry, I won't. I called my lawyer as soon as I got home, asked him when the first legal day I could leave the state to go to live in Florida (I figured if I was going to go through so much suffering I may as well do it in good weather also my father would have harrassed me into NOT divorcing him and I just couldn't take that Dr. Phil, I ended up in the Psychiatric Hospital towards the end of the first divorce for 20 days and about 8 days after I was released, all of a sudden there were final divorce papers for me to sign. I was preoccupied with suicide ideation and under heavy meds; I figured the best thing to do was just sign the papers ... little did I know I signed away everything I educated myself for and worked so hard for as one of the first Nuclear Power Engineering Technician's in the country. That salary is what built "our dream homes" that I just signed away under the haze of drugs and being emotionally broken.  

His ultimate deception, fraud, calculated scheme to marry me so that I could not modify any alimony from the first divorce has hurt me so deeply I cannot begin to describe.

But Dr. P., I ask you and Oprah why do people do this?  He was a net millionaire after the first divorce, why did he serve me with divorce papers the second time, for a few more bucks in his own pocket?

I am now a practising Christian, I forgave him right away for intentionally hurting me and I told him I'd pray for his lost soul every day because the master he serves is money. The Bible says one cannot serve to masters, he will either hate one or love the other.  To this day, I pray for his fallen soul not for my benefit but for his eternal salvation.

But there is this need in me to know why he wants to see me homeless and how can he even sleep in the homes we built together with both of our careers?

How can someone be so cruelly deceptive?  How?  Why?

Dr. Phil; please, I beg you and Oprah to respond to me yourselves this time as both your staff has continually trashed my emails, letters to you discounting my situation. 

Please Dr. Phil, Oprah; don't push me away either. I am seeking  understanding and  help wherever I can about why this has happened to me. I have literally been going through a divorce for the past 10 years.  Any help from either or both of you would be greatly appreciated, please.

I will send you my phone number and address in private if I may.

Marianna

p.s. my Honda Accord just died on me with 122,000 miles on it and I couldn't see the logic of putting up to $3,500 into a car with that many miles on it so I bought a "new" used car - but all that did was add another monthly expense that has to get drawn from the remaining equity in "my" home.

Dr. P,

I've been writing to you and Oprah (as I am an incest survivor) about the fraud of a second marriage that my husband strategized and calculated so that he could protect himself financially AFTER he had taken everything from me after our 1st divorce. My 2nd divorce just became final and he had the nerve to put the words in the divorce decree that I cannot pursue and charges against him concerning fraud, deception or calculation strategy of this second marriage. He is STILL strategizing!

With my career, and the "things" we gained from it; his net worth is now over one million dollars.  I am on the food stamp program and permanently disabled due to Severe Major Depression w/Dythsyimia, PTSD, Panic Disorder & Anxiety Disorder.  I have not worked since 1993 and now am $39,000 in debt to the equity of my home, the only thing I have left ... He has our retirement home on Cape Cod, free of any mortgage, a beach home on the Connecticut shoreline, free of any mortgage and yet he courted me after the first divorce, and I will take the responsibility of allowing myself to open my shattered heart to him and fall in love with him based on verbal promises of fulfilling our original dreams of the 1st marriage that lasted 23.5 years.Ten days before we were to marry the second time, he put a pre-marital agreement in front of me and said that he couldn't marry me if I didn't sign it.... but "of course, I'll never divorce you ..." We married December 4, 2003. Last September 12, 2006, the Sheriff knocked on my door and there was an envelope with my name on it. I have been served. I am being sued for divorce.

Dr. P. I was in shock. I literally could not move away from the door for. I read only the first half of the first page. That's all I needed to read. I don't know how long I stood behind that closed door thinking to myself "But he promised me he loved me and would love me until the day he died; he allowed me to meet and care for my "grandchildren" then tore them away from me; he told me he would love and care for me always; he told me he wanted to grow old together. What happened?

It was at that point, I held the papers as far above my head as possible as I have a broken neck & said out loud to God: "God, I can't do this anymore. You HAVE to take this from me. Whatever is the result of this divorce I will accept it because I know it will have come from You. I surrender my entire life into Your precious hands." 

The divorce became final September 13th, 2007. These two divorces are very much affecting my future, the possibility of losing my home, oh, btw: I'm first generation Italian and recvd no support from any of my family because divorce is unacceptable; at the first divorce my father told me "never to come back to his house ever again!"  I replied "Don't worry, I won't. I called my lawyer as soon as I got home, asked him when the first legal day I could leave the state to go to live in Florida (I figured if I was going to go through so much suffering I may as well do it in good weather also my father would have harrassed me into NOT divorcing him and I just couldn't take that Dr. Phil, I ended up in the Psychiatric Hospital towards the end of the first divorce for 20 days and about 8 days after I was released, all of a sudden there were final divorce papers for me to sign. I was preoccupied with suicide ideation and under heavy meds; I figured the best thing to do was just sign the papers ... little did I know I signed away everything I educated myself for and worked so hard for as one of the first Nuclear Power Engineering Technician's in the country. That salary is what built "our dream homes" that I just signed away under the haze of drugs and being emotionally broken.  

His ultimate deception, fraud, calculated scheme to marry me so that I could not modify any alimony from the first divorce has hurt me so deeply I cannot begin to describe.

But Dr. P., I ask you and Oprah why do people do this?  He was a net millionaire after the first divorce, why did he serve me with divorce papers the second time, for a few more bucks in his own pocket?

I am now a practising Christian, I forgave him right away for intentionally hurting me and I told him I'd pray for his lost soul every day because the master he serves is money. The Bible says one cannot serve to masters, he will either hate one or love the other.  To this day, I pray for his fallen soul not for my benefit but for his eternal salvation.

But there is this need in me to know why he wants to see me homeless and how can he even sleep in the homes we built together with both of our careers?

How can someone be so cruelly deceptive?  How?  Why?

Dr. Phil; please, I beg you and Oprah to respond to me yourselves this time as both your staff has continually trashed my emails, letters to you discounting my situation. 

Please Dr. Phil, Oprah; don't push me away either. I am seeking  understanding and  help wherever I can about why this has happened to me. I have literally been going through a divorce for the past 10 years.  Any help from either or both of you would be greatly appreciated, please.

I will send you my phone number and address in private if I may.

Marianna

p.s. my Honda Accord just died on me with 122,000 miles on it and I couldn't see the logic of putting up to $3,500 into a car with that many miles on it so I bought a "new" used car - but all that did was add another monthly expense that has to get drawn from the remaining equity in "my" home.

Dr. P,

I've been writing to you and Oprah (as I am an incest survivor) about the fraud of a second marriage that my husband strategized and calculated so that he could protect himself financially AFTER he had taken everything from me after our 1st divorce. My 2nd divorce just became final and he had the nerve to put the words in the divorce decree that I cannot pursue and charges against him concerning fraud, deception or calculation strategy of this second marriage. He is STILL strategizing!

With my career, and the "things" we gained from it; his net worth is now over one million dollars.  I am on the food stamp program and permanently disabled due to Severe Major Depression w/Dythsyimia, PTSD, Panic Disorder & Anxiety Disorder.  I have not worked since 1993 and now am $39,000 in debt to the equity of my home, the only thing I have left ... He has our retirement home on Cape Cod, free of any mortgage, a beach home on the Connecticut shoreline, free of any mortgage and yet he courted me after the first divorce, and I will take the responsibility of allowing myself to open my shattered heart to him and fall in love with him based on verbal promises of fulfilling our original dreams of the 1st marriage that lasted 23.5 years.Ten days before we were to marry the second time, he put a pre-marital agreement in front of me and said that he couldn't marry me if I didn't sign it.... but "of course, I'll never divorce you ..." We married December 4, 2003. Last September 12, 2006, the Sheriff knocked on my door and there was an envelope with my name on it. I have been served. I am being sued for divorce.

Dr. P. I was in shock. I literally could not move away from the door for. I read only the first half of the first page. That's all I needed to read. I don't know how long I stood behind that closed door thinking to myself "But he promised me he loved me and would love me until the day he died; he allowed me to meet and care for my "grandchildren" then tore them away from me; he told me he would love and care for me always; he told me he wanted to grow old together. What happened?

It was at that point, I held the papers as far above my head as possible as I have a broken neck & said out loud to God: "God, I can't do this anymore. You HAVE to take this from me. Whatever is the result of this divorce I will accept it because I know it will have come from You. I surrender my entire life into Your precious hands." 

The divorce became final September 13th, 2007. These two divorces are very much affecting my future, the possibility of losing my home, oh, btw: I'm first generation Italian and recvd no support from any of my family because divorce is unacceptable; at the first divorce my father told me "never to come back to his house ever again!"  I replied "Don't worry, I won't. I called my lawyer as soon as I got home, asked him when the first legal day I could leave the state to go to live in Florida (I figured if I was going to go through so much suffering I may as well do it in good weather also my father would have harrassed me into NOT divorcing him and I just couldn't take that Dr. Phil, I ended up in the Psychiatric Hospital towards the end of the first divorce for 20 days and about 8 days after I was released, all of a sudden there were final divorce papers for me to sign. I was preoccupied with suicide ideation and under heavy meds; I figured the best thing to do was just sign the papers ... little did I know I signed away everything I educated myself for and worked so hard for as one of the first Nuclear Power Engineering Technician's in the country. That salary is what built "our dream homes" that I just signed away under the haze of drugs and being emotionally broken.  

His ultimate deception, fraud, calculated scheme to marry me so that I could not modify any alimony from the first divorce has hurt me so deeply I cannot begin to describe.

But Dr. P., I ask you and Oprah why do people do this?  He was a net millionaire after the first divorce, why did he serve me with divorce papers the second time, for a few more bucks in his own pocket?

I am now a practising Christian, I forgave him right away for intentionally hurting me and I told him I'd pray for his lost soul every day because the master he serves is money. The Bible says one cannot serve to masters, he will either hate one or love the other.  To this day, I pray for his fallen soul not for my benefit but for his eternal salvation.

But there is this need in me to know why he wants to see me homeless and how can he even sleep in the homes we built together with both of our careers?

How can someone be so cruelly deceptive?  How?  Why?

Dr. Phil; please, I beg you and Oprah to respond to me yourselves this time as both your staff has continually trashed my emails, letters to you discounting my situation. 

Please Dr. Phil, Oprah; don't push me away either. I am seeking  understanding and  help wherever I can about why this has happened to me. I have literally been going through a divorce for the past 10 years.  Any help from either or both of you would be greatly appreciated, please.

I will send you my phone number and address in private if I may.

Marianna

p.s. my Honda Accord just died on me with 122,000 miles on it and I couldn't see the logic of putting up to $3,500 into a car with that many miles on it so I bought a "new" used car - but all that did was add another monthly expense that has to get drawn from the remaining equity in "my" home.

Dr. P,

I've been writing to you and Oprah (as I am an incest survivor) about the fraud of a second marriage that my husband strategized and calculated so that he could protect himself financially AFTER he had taken everything from me after our 1st divorce. My 2nd divorce just became final and he had the nerve to put the words in the divorce decree that I cannot pursue and charges against him concerning fraud, deception or calculation strategy of this second marriage. He is STILL strategizing!

With my career, and the "things" we gained from it; his net worth is now over one million dollars.  I am on the food stamp program and permanently disabled due to Severe Major Depression w/Dythsyimia, PTSD, Panic Disorder & Anxiety Disorder.  I have not worked since 1993 and now am $39,000 in debt to the equity of my home, the only thing I have left ... He has our retirement home on Cape Cod, free of any mortgage, a beach home on the Connecticut shoreline, free of any mortgage and yet he courted me after the first divorce, and I will take the responsibility of allowing myself to open my shattered heart to him and fall in love with him based on verbal promises of fulfilling our original dreams of the 1st marriage that lasted 23.5 years.Ten days before we were to marry the second time, he put a pre-marital agreement in front of me and said that he couldn't marry me if I didn't sign it.... but "of course, I'll never divorce you ..." We married December 4, 2003. Last September 12, 2006, the Sheriff knocked on my door and there was an envelope with my name on it. I have been served. I am being sued for divorce.

Dr. P. I was in shock. I literally could not move away from the door for. I read only the first half of the first page. That's all I needed to read. I don't know how long I stood behind that closed door thinking to myself "But he promised me he loved me and would love me until the day he died; he allowed me to meet and care for my "grandchildren" then tore them away from me; he told me he would love and care for me always; he told me he wanted to grow old together. What happened?

It was at that point, I held the papers as far above my head as possible as I have a broken neck & said out loud to God: "God, I can't do this anymore. You HAVE to take this from me. Whatever is the result of this divorce I will accept it because I know it will have come from You. I surrender my entire life into Your precious hands." 

The divorce became final September 13th, 2007. These two divorces are very much affecting my future, the possibility of losing my home, oh, btw: I'm first generation Italian and recvd no support from any of my family because divorce is unacceptable; at the first divorce my father told me "never to come back to his house ever again!"  I replied "Don't worry, I won't. I called my lawyer as soon as I got home, asked him when the first legal day I could leave the state to go to live in Florida (I figured if I was going to go through so much suffering I may as well do it in good weather also my father would have harrassed me into NOT divorcing him and I just couldn't take that Dr. Phil, I ended up in the Psychiatric Hospital towards the end of the first divorce for 20 days and about 8 days after I was released, all of a sudden there were final divorce papers for me to sign. I was preoccupied with suicide ideation and under heavy meds; I figured the best thing to do was just sign the papers ... little did I know I signed away everything I educated myself for and worked so hard for as one of the first Nuclear Power Engineering Technician's in the country. That salary is what built "our dream homes" that I just signed away under the haze of drugs and being emotionally broken.  

His ultimate deception, fraud, calculated scheme to marry me so that I could not modify any alimony from the first divorce has hurt me so deeply I cannot begin to describe.

But Dr. P., I ask you and Oprah why do people do this?  He was a net millionaire after the first divorce, why did he serve me with divorce papers the second time, for a few more bucks in his own pocket?

I am now a practising Christian, I forgave him right away for intentionally hurting me and I told him I'd pray for his lost soul every day because the master he serves is money. The Bible says one cannot serve to masters, he will either hate one or love the other.  To this day, I pray for his fallen soul not for my benefit but for his eternal salvation.

But there is this need in me to know why he wants to see me homeless and how can he even sleep in the homes we built together with both of our careers?

How can someone be so cruelly deceptive?  How?  Why?

Dr. Phil; please, I beg you and Oprah to respond to me yourselves this time as both your staff has continually trashed my emails, letters to you discounting my situation. 

Please Dr. Phil, Oprah; don't push me away either. I am seeking  understanding and  help wherever I can about why this has happened to me. I have literally been going through a divorce for the past 10 years.  Any help from either or both of you would be greatly appreciated, please.

I will send you my phone number and address in private if I may.

Marianna

p.s. my Honda Accord just died on me with 122,000 miles on it and I couldn't see the logic of putting up to $3,500 into a car with that many miles on it so I bought a "new" used car - but all that did was add another monthly expense that has to get drawn from the remaining equity in "my" home.