Quote From: brooke1029I know how you feel I have been in a unhappy, controling, verbal abusive marriage for forty yrs, have tried and tried to get out . I always seem to come back , cause I have no family or formal training to make it on my own and feel according to him no one would want a dummy un skilled person like myself. I am a emotional wreck. We have three kids and they are grown and all have problems now after being in this dysfunctional situation because I was so weak and couldnot get them out ..
I am so proud I watched this show and logged onto Dr. PHil , what I have read has helped me in so many ways.
I know I have a long road but I am going to take control of my life.
thanks for listening and reading my post today/
Brooke
Brooke, I am so sorry that you are living the nightmare like so many of us. I was an emotional wreck while still with my husband as well but truthfully was even worse after I left him. I do not even remember the first few months after I walked away. Looking back now, I think I was in a form of shock....felt a bit like being in a coma but still awake.
I'm glad you did watch Dr. Phil's show today and found this message board! My daughter and I watched it as well. It was very, very hard for me, found myself in tears quite a few times but I do think it helps me continue my healing process.
Please listen to me....I have dealt with all the guilt of allowing my children to be put through hell because I was too afraid to leave him. For way too long I let that keep me from improving my life mentally and physically. Now I realize that I cannot go back and change what has happened BUT I can change the future!
I'm very proud of you for saying that you are going to take control of your life now! That alone is a huge step when you have been dominated, controlled and abused for years. Yes, it will be a long road but worth every single step, I promise you!
