Quote From: karleen345I don't want to brag, however I raised 4 children by myself. Each one is succesful in their own right. My oldest son is a police officer, my 2nd oldest son is a supervisor for a large contracting business, my daughter is a licensed barber and my youngest son is a firefighter/paramedic.
Parents today feel their children should not be hit. I agree with that to a point. . THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DISAPLINNING A CHILD and abusing them!
A smack on their behind works wonders! I did not use cruel and unsual punishment with my children, however they knew I meant business and would not stand for talking back, throwing things at me (or anyone for that manner and I would NEVER stand for a child callng me names and/or tellng me what to do!
Wake up all you parents out there.....start displinning your children and they will respect your rules!!
Thank you for stating the obvious (or common sense – which is what I like to call it).
I am a late “Baby Boomer” that has no children. Since I don’t have kids, everyone tells me that “I don’t understand” because I have never raised a child.
Guess What??? I do understand because I am surrounded with friends that have raised a bunch of spoiled rotten brats.
Examples: (please let me name a few)
We ALL stand in line for 10 minutes while this 3-yr old decides what he wants to eat. When my mother took me down the cafeteria line it was, “She will have a chicken leg, green beans and corn”
While I am trying to go over something important on the phone, the child (who is on the other shoulder) is screaming in the phone receiver because they want something NOW!!
We are in a store and because said parent will not buy the $200 pair of sandals that would last one day on the playground, we have a 10 minute screaming tantrum the entire store hears. Let’s by all means stand there for 15 minutes and try to reason with this 7 yr old, that $200 is a lot of money to pay for a pair of shoes, which is more than Mommy spends on hers. AUGHHH………. And we do that because if she doesn’t like them then she won’t wear them. (I bet she would if she was told to wear them.)
My point to my examples is that – have parents lost their minds?? My mother helped me select my clothes until I could afford to buy them myself, told me that she was on the phone on an important phone call and would be with me when she could, and did not make a cafeteria line back up out the door while I decided if I wanted corn or mashed potatoes. When I misbehaved, I was taken to the car or bathroom until I decided that it was more fun to be a part of the group then look at the four walls of a drab bathroom. If I that was not a part of my reasoning skills, then a firm hand was applied to my bare bottom until I came to my senses. It worked wonders!!
I think I grew up pretty good. I learned to respect my parents and elders; I am considerate of others and have pretty good manners. I realize that I am not the only person on the planet, nor was I put on this earth so that everything I wanted would be mine. I had to earn my allowance for extras (getting 10 cents per paper bag full of weeds), was allowed in one sport or activity at a time, and was told to get off the phone and get in bed by 10pm on a school night. If I didn’t, then the phone was taken out of my hand and hung up for me. There was NO DOUBT in my mind who the parent was or that I was a child until I could support myself.
We are raising a group of very self-absorbed children and that goes along with the parents that are raising them. They want to be their best friend, not the parent. A child has the right to be anywhere you are, and if they scream for two hours straight, then tough. You better like it and get over it. It doesn’t matter if it is on an airplane, bus, car or restaurant. If they want to kick your seat or hang over it and slobber on your head, then you better think that it is cute or get "the look". There are no rules or boundaries or even reasoning skills. Everything is supposed to be "cute". Well, guess what?? It is not - nor will it ever be.
That could be why I have followed a few of their parents to a grave yard to bury them.
Since the advice was coming from their "best friend" rather than as a parent with consequences, the opinion that it wasn't safe to drive that car around a curve at 100 miles/per hour or after consuming a few gallons of beer was not taken seriously. Or that staying out till 2am on a date wasn't too smart and produced a child at age 17 because "my mother was so strict on me, and I just don't want to be like that to my daughter."
It is sad. It is not only unfair to the child, but to the rest of the population that has to try and teach them, hire them, and reason with them. Nothing in this life is free - we all pay the price for our actions, one way or the other. Because we are all so worried about making the child's life better than ours - we ourselves have lost our sense of reasoning and common sense.
