Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Because my husband has been shelling out $1000/mo for a boy whose mother was married to him less than a year, cleaned out his savings, ran up his credit cards, left and now reruses him visitation (for the last 10 years). I am supposedly this kid's stepmother and I've never even met him. Our marriage is wrecked by this whole thing. Women who pass her kids off as someone else's should not only be ashamed of themselves, they should be incarcerated!!

My husband's ex has refused to submit to a DNA test, defied five court orders to provide information about him to our attorney and the court system of Clarksville, Indiana and getw away with it. She also missed two court dates. She has never worked, told my husband she was a nurse practitioner who would be making $60,000/yr before they got married and then told him she couldn't find a job after they were married. We found out later that her nursing license had been yanked before she ever met him. This is fraud at it's utmost.

I, on the other hand, am infertile and never had children. It doesn't take brains to procreate. Few see the world from my perspective. My last husband abandoned me after nine years of marriage during which I endured four surgeries, an ectopic pregnancy that almost killed me, fertility drugs, shots, ultrasounds, blood tests until I was exhausted. The fertility drugs altered my personality and made me manic. When my ex couldn't take anymore, he walked out. He is now the father of a little girl by a woman who got pregnant to trap him into marriage.  Women who do that stuff are repulsive.

I do not attend baby showers, baptisms. I am an outcast from conversations that are supposed to be "women" conversations--pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, raising children, etc.  Yet women who do have children yammer yammer yammer on right in front of me about all of this garbage.

YOu can imagine my resentment at paying all of our income to some criminal who can't even provide proof this child is my  husband's.

I couldn't believe my eyes when I started watching Maury's show on how many woman that knew in their heart that they have slept with another man or many men and blamed some man for being the father of their child ,and when the results come back that the man is not the father, they go running off the stage crying, and screaming! It makes me sick and even embarrased to be a woman sometimes! There should be a law in place, if she tells you that she is pregnant, someone with a paternity test should be present and it should be manditory that both parties take it! This should cut out the welfare rolls, all of the lies and the B.S. Any woman that would stoop so low to keep a man, or to get money through child support should be ordered to pay that money back to the man, get jail time and maybe get the child taken away from you b/c you are not a mother, that makes you a golddiggin' h--!! And it's not about the child, if he IS NOT THAT CHILD'S FATHER, then he SHOULD NOT have to take care of it! It seems to me that Selena was relieved to know that that man was not her father, he probabaly did not let her do what she wanted to do and this stepfather seems more like he's trying to be her friend, instead of a father figure! I feel as though she will get over it! And to the mother, she needs to sit her child down and tell her who her real father is and go find him! Nasty A-- women make me sick!!  I agree with you to the lady that wrote this: Women like her makes it bad for a dam good woman like me!! I fought in the gulf war for my kids!!! Get a job and stop laying on your backs!! From A real woman!!

I read most of the comments on the board after watching the show today...I think that the mother of this wonderful young lady is totally responsible for every hurt the yound lady is experiencing.  I do not feel that the "fake" father did the right thing by blurting it out to the kid and refusing to have visitation, but I can understand why he was forced to do that....by knowing what he now knew, if he continued to act as a father, he would have to continue to pay support, something he did not feel he should do.  He has to live with that...but the fact remains, the mother cheated, lied, and covered up her guilt...it was only her who knew the truth!  That Gloria lawyer acted so outraged when she said, "let's not point fingers..." but only when the finger pointing was at anyone other than the poor guy who was cheated on and lied to!!!

It appears that the young lady will be hurt by all this, but she appeared to be doing better than a lot of kids that have not gone through such hurts....a fine young lady.  She learned young that life is not always rosey, people lie and manipulate...and that is ashame. But, well, it is life.  I do not think the man should pay another penny towards child support.  And I hope the little girl grows up realizing it was the mother's fault!!!

Juri

I believe the mother on the show should be held responsible. I also believe that her ex-husband, Enrique, should have the right to sue her for at least 50% of the child support that he has paid over the years. However, the mother should have the right to find the biological father and hold him responsible. If the biological father knew he had a child with her, he should be forced to pay. If she victimized and deceived him as well, he should only be forced to pay for the next few years of child support, when his daughter is 18.

I was sorry to see attorney Gloria Allred take the wrong side on this issue. I normally agree with her on issues, but not this one. She was wrong. The victim was Enrique and her daughters. The mother victimized her entire family by deceiving and lying to them. Unfortunately Enrique didn't handle the situation well after he found out the news, but that is another matter altogether.

Women who rip off men like Maria do it because they KNOW there are no repercussions, and the courts will do nothing to them. Take it from one who's been on the receiving end. The screwing you get ain't worth the screwing you got.