Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Hi there

First, my red light came on when you said.. "my son was only 17 and when they were together and she was suppose to be his counselor"...

I am guessing, that she works or did work at a High School or a Counseling Office.. This is totally Wrong . totally unprofessional and depending on your State you live in, I am guessing it's against the Law.. There are codes of Ethics and also Laws pertaining to Minor/Adults...

And then the bottom line, this Lady is mentally sick. Thats a given..

As for you Son, I am guessing that you two have talked in detail about what his responsibility's are or should be, if he is this child's Father. He is looking at paying child support, covering health care and half of the expenses along with the responsibility's of being a "DAD"...

It sounds like you two have talked about this and his is "willing' to do his share..

But, this is not cut and dry case..

My advice.. is you two need to hire an attorney. A good attorney will file a petition to the court to Order blood test and then after the results are in, if your Son is the Father, then Visitation and Child Support and the other normal issue will be decided.

However, with the fact that this Women had sex with a Minor and she was his Councilor at the time.. I think this is going to be a Mess and a Fight...

And the fact of the matter, this Women is mental Ill.. I would fight for full custody of this child if I was your Son or giving advice to your Son..

But, first step is to hire a good attorney and go from there.

Wish your Son the best of luck and also hoping you get to me a Grandma to this little one..

Dianah

As long as your son is the biological father, he has rights to see his child. If the mother won't allow him to see his son, or she makes it difficult, your son needs to take her to court. He needs to take her back to court as many times as it takes for her to abide by the visitation award that was given to your son. I know it is difficult on your son, but if the mother's new husband wants to be the father so badly, maybe he should cnsider allowing the new husband to adopt the boy to make life easier. If that is not a consideration, your son needs to keep notes, and keep her in court until the court eventually gives the child to your son. If the mother won't abide by the visitation order, she is in contempt, and she can get into alot of trouble. There are too any mothers out there that think just because they have custody, they can play the game of making it difficult for the father to see the child. The want the child support, but not the supporter in the picture. They want their cake and eat it too, and they need to be taught a lesson. There are too many mothers that use the children as pawns, and the day will come when the children reach adult age, and they will know the truth. They WILL hold it against the mother, not matter what. They may not be able to see the games the others play now, but they will when they get older. Tell your son to take good notes. He will have his time in the future to tell his son the truth! Momma won't look very good at that time, so watch out mothers. You re playing a dangerous game. Trust me, it happened to my husband, who still supports a child that isn't his, and his alledged daughter found out that the lies she had been told by dear mother were really lies. To this day, they don't have any kind of a relationship. The girl is 30 years old and has a few children of her own, and won't let her mother be a part of her life in any way! Should have thought it out a little better mom, right? Your loss now!!!

Good luck to your son. Tell him not to give up. DO NOT ALLOW THE MOTHER TO WIN, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take back the control! Keep good notes!!!