Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Quote From: pixie80

 This is so sad on so many levels.  It was bad enough the mother wasn't honest from the beginning & then the father had to go & add fuel to a fire, in my opinion what he did was far worse than what the mother did. because his actions resulted in the immediate life altering emotional scarring of the poor girl. I understand the chain of events that it was the mother that "started it" but he had a CHOICE & that was to cool off, blow some steam. ..think things over & rise above it & do the right thing so that this child wouldn't have to suffer ANYMORE than she was already going to be. he had a choice. & he chose to think emotionally, he rebelled. he wanted to HURT his ex & instead he used the daughter as his target little did he know what infact HE was starting.

I disagree with Gloria Allred this is infact a regular occuring issue in this country. It is sad that people just have no sense of morals anymore. its all about just getting pregnant for whatever reason & just being out right irresponsible. if it gets to be a bigger problem. .to protect men .. maybe they should institute a law where ALL WOMEN have to go under paternity testing of who they think are the fathers of their children, its easy.. it would either be a few guys or just "the one" & also think with such a law women would be more inclined to use birth control or how about just "waiting" I do agree with the men side of this that at some point they should not be held accountable if they have been victimized. on the other hand, if the said father has greatly bonded with the said child. . then to me that puts a different light on the situation. because then it goes beyond child support. then it becomes the emotional & mental well being of the said child. I think in cases like this the men should be free & clear to not pay child support anymore HOWEVER it would need to be made clear to them that they do have an emotional responsibility to the child because that child is attacthed to that man. so..  maybe no child support but with continued visitation. but then you have the dad's that did the un think able like in this case where he takes the child to a park & tells all. like she has any control over any of it. she didn't ask to be born she didn't get to pick her parents. as far as I am concerned maybe he should pay child support. . but instead .... call it "Pain & suffering" for what he has put that little girl through for no good reason other than an attempt to hurt his ex. & it has now had a dominoe effect his own blook daughter doesn't want much to do with him. Can you blame her! thats her little sister. REGARDLESS of whos is mommy or daddy. I don't blame her. he's lucky I am not his daughter, he thinks he hurt my sister. .. .let me tell you. . he would have LOST ALL relationships with ALL kids. How 'bout them apples. this just burns me up how the kids got the worst of it. & all they want to do is argue over a lousy couple of hundred dollars a month. lets see. .  ."childs life" Vs "Money"  hmm. .. "God/God's child vs. money"   & his little attack on his ex. . christianly speaking. . . .. .We ALL SIN. & ALL sins are equal in the eyes of God. she may have committed adultrey & lied, but EVERYONE breaks one or more commandment EVERYDAY. .we all do. .... .even HIM. . .  he aint no Angel either I am sure. "He who hath not sinned cast the first stone" he may not ever committed adultrey but I am sure he "sins" in other ways & that is as equal as whatever sins she has committed. & I am sure there is not a day goes by she is asking God for forgiveness, as so should HE. . doing what he did do his said daughter. he's one to talk. anyway. .. . .I am done there is no real solution to this. not unless they implement laws that protect men. but in the eyes of the law it is not about the men or women it is about the best interest of the child.