Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Quote From: lighthouseguy

 Mia,

I appreciate your response and I believe a good majority of your intentions were good and I don't think you are a villain by any means as I too think the truth of a situation should always come out; however, I also think you may be kidding yourself on your motives behind all this being so innocent.  I know you could probably care less what I think in all this as a stranger, but for you to say you are only concerned with the truth and how all can benefit from this and so and so forth, I just don't believe that that was what motivated your actions at the start of all this.  You came across as a very anger person on the show (for good reason btw), but I can only imagine how much more angry you were prior to all this when you felt your husband was being scammed by Maria, whom I hold ultimately responsible for this entire mess.  I just think you are attempting to put a  more positive face or spin on this considering the horrific damage all this caused.

The only other thing I can really add to this is that if you were so involved in having your husband "bring out the truth" than you should also have been a more intricate part with the manner in which he handled all this and it's aftermath.  If you did all this out of great love for everyone (a tough pill to swallow), than you owed to your husband and the child he's always known as his family to see this through in a more productive manner.  You can't start the ball rolling on this kind of explosive and sensitive situation and then sit back and say "I'm not involved in splitting this family up" or "I don't feel it's my place to tell my husband how to feel about this."  That's what I mean by not owning up to where ALL of the adults failed this poor child who is the real victim in this in the end.  You are no saint in this regardless of your motives.

Mia, I think you are a good person and certainly a loyal and loving wife, and I think your motives where to protect your husband in the best way you saw fit at the time, but you do lack credibility here by insisting all your intentions were innocent.  Falling back, as Gloria had done to sickening effect, that everything is for the "well-being of the child", then you should concede that more consideration should have been paid regarding the impact this glorious truth was going to have on this innocent child and after really initiating all this, it is very disappointing to here you now remove yourself from it all with how you don't want to tell your husband how to feel.  That didn't seem to bother you before the news broke.  Personally, I think you owe it to him more now than ever.

Mia, as his current wife, and an intricate part of this whole mess, your husband absolutely needs every bit of wisdom you have to offer him right.  You owe it to him to help him get on a path that will heal both him and his relationship with this girl he was once so proud to call his daughter.  After initiating this, you really can't sit back and say and think it's all up to Enrique in how he wants to handle and feel about this.  Everyone needs your love, support, and wisdom more than ever and, believe it or not, no one has more influence over how this situation gets resolved than you do.  Only you can really assist your husband now in a positive manner, Mia.  Don't let guilt, fear, or false respect for your husband's feelings keep you from being the positive force he needs.

I apologize if I have offended you at all.  We are strangers and I only know what I see and read.  I only have my own moral compass to work with and it's not everyone else's.  My prayers are sincerely with you, your husband (whom I know has to be devastated by events here), and Selina who should never have been hurt the way she was by all the adults who should have been protecting her.

With respect,
Steve