Quote From: ladypat26It has to be devastating to find out your child is not really biologically yours. That is part of my point. If I suspected something like this about my husbands child and these many years had past, I would not want my husband to suffer this pain and I certainly would not want the child to bear it. So, I would just keep my thoughts to myself and carry on. Let the two (father and daughter) continue on with their loving relationship. Let the child have a secure and loving life.
Yes everyone can know about his biology, but you don't thrust it on a 10 year old along with this kind of rejection. Has everyone lost their mind???
We don't know a thing about the bio dad, he could have been some drunk she met in a bar for all we know. Maria was immoral and she decided to keep her immorality covered. I won't speculate on her motives be they good or bad. She was bad and it would have been best to fess up, but she didn't so let us deal with the
here and
now. There is a little 10 yr old girl who loves and needs the man she has called Daddy all her life. This is why I as the 2nd wife would have kept my mouth shut. Nothing good can come from helping someone devastate a child.
I call Mia a lying defrauder because she is lying to herself and about herself. She continues to put a spin on what she did by opening this can of worms as something noble.......honesty and justice. Good words when they are genuine, but they are hollow when she says them. Where is the justice for the child? As for honesty, I am as much for honesty as the next person, but when your honesty devastates a child then quiet is preferred to honesty. If your child is overweight and not too cute would you appreciate me saying to the child, "My you're a fat ugly child. Oh I'm just being honest"?
She has defrauded Enrique and Selina out of a sweet father daughter relationship.
Looks like we agree on certain things but I guess we can agree to disagree on the other.
I know Enrique could have went about things differently but whether or not the bio dad is a drunk or what not, that was Maria's choice to sleep with him, and that man still deserves to know his child. The here and now, I feel, is now that Enrique does know, he should not be forced to pay support on the child, that should not be his decision, not anyone else's. Since there is a bond, yeah, it's a good idea to continue to be in the child's life, emotionally. And the here and now is that Enrique wants to make ammends, let's forget what he done in the past....it goes both ways.
What if this child got hurt really bad and was in the hospital and they tested Enrique's blood and the hospital told him that he was not the father and they could not use his, he wasn't a match. Is the hospital at fault for telling Enrique. It doesn't really matter how Enrique found out, or who told him, it was something that he deserved to know.
And no, I don't think you should just be flat out rude to a child and tell them they are fat, or ugly. That's just being flat out mean and cruel. But to suggest a DNA test, Mia wasn't being cruel. Mia didn't defraud them out of a relationship. Maria had to know one day this may catch up with her and knew there would be consequences of her actions. She defrauded both baby and Enrique from day one. Mia never put a gun to anyone's head and made them make the choices they made.
