Replies to '06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2'

I to am a mother in law dealing with practically the same situation. Unfortunately, a child is involved now and things haven't changed. I feel for this mother.

I am a mother, not mother-in-law, and I'm disgusted with both the husband and bride's behavior! Talk about "right fighting". And when did they become so innocent in this mess? What I saw from the first episode was embarrassing for both the mom-in-law and the bride but in the second episode, the ONLY change I saw came from the mom-in-law. I also agree that the son was not held accountable or questioned about what they did wrong in the last episode. Even if the mom-in-law had said some nasty things, so has the daughter-in-law yet they have YET to acknowledge their part in it.

 

And you're right also about the mother holding the key to the gate. That poor mom-in-law will be out of luck or have to grovel and play the humiliation game to see the grandkids at the rate that her son and daughter-in-law are going. Shameful!

 

Thank you, Dr. Phil, for at least pointing out that the couple were not being graceful but they weren't being accountable either.

When my husband and I got married, I kept stressing over and over that it was not just a joining of us it was a joining of two familes and we needed to view it that way.  I have a very strong, and very controling mother and we have butted heads since I have reached Adulthood--like the MIL on the show.  Also, like the MIL on the show my mother has been known to use vocabulary unbecoming of her, BUT my mother has always been the first one on my side, has been my strongest supporter, and would go to war for any of her children.  I will forgive her for her faults, because her pluses are so awesome.  Unfortunately Michelle and her short sighted husband wil not find out the blessings they could receive from a strong willed, stubborn woman if they don't just forgive and forget.  Life is so short and family is the one thing that will always be there for you.  Now that my mother is 67, I am so grateful that she is healthy and active and will, God willing. be around to make me crazy for another 20 years.  Those two just need to grow up, face some real problems in their life and then realize how lucky they are.

I was disappointed that only Jane saw a therapist.  Michelle and Jay need to seek professional help too.  Then all three go together and get things straigtened out before any children are involved.