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November 24, 2007, 5:10 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

Here, here The mother-in-law is the main problem ! Quit dmping on he bride ! She is just responding tothe M-I-L.

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November 24, 2007, 8:55 pm PST

WHAT!?!?

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

Oh come on! Give me a break, you could see it in that girls eyes. She showed nothing but hate for her mother-in-law. There is a time when you need to be the bigger person, and just stop the childish behavior. Cut off the oxygen supply- the fire wont burn. As far as your comment on hardly spending any time with your husbands side of the family, and not enjoying it when you do, what kind of effect fo you think that will have on your children? You may not agree with that way your in-laws act, but kids atleast need the chance to have that bond with their Grandparents, and make that decision for themselves.

Angela

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November 26, 2007, 9:04 am PST

your one of those dil.

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

Well I can see your one of those dil. I am a mother-in-law and I have the same dil. Yes I have had arguments with my dil but when it's all said and done I have been the one to say the "I'm sorrys" but nothing helps, my dil is just a spoiled brat and she has ruined my relationship with my son and his family. I still have a mil and we get along great but if there was any tension between the two of us because I love my husband so much I would do all that I could to make things right between the two of us. Remember that old saying respect your elders. This dil from this show I think was all wrong as I think your quote was. If you have problems with your mil are you trying to make things right?

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November 27, 2007, 1:33 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

Hey, I'm a daughter in law too, however, I feel extremely sorry for the mother in law. This daughter in law is hell on wheels, and her son is a triffling, wimp. He seems to go along with everything his wife does and blames his mother for all the trouble. What kind of man is going to let his fiance cuss his mother out, call her names and post garbage about her on a website? I mean, get real. He should be ashamed to come on national television and actually admit that he lets his wife do this to his mother.

I have two brothers, and it would be a cold day in hell before they would let their fiance cuss out our mother and disrespect her.

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November 27, 2007, 2:27 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

well first of all the bible ay to honor your mother. Even if she is wrong. You are to honor your mother! I have a mother inlaw who could care less about me but I tell my husband that that is his mother and he has to love her. Me and her don't have to get along but he does. Even though she don't care for me when she comes over I treat her with the utmost of respect knowing she could care less about my efforts. Always treat people how you want to be treated and quit worriyng about what someone has done to you and worry about how you treat others and have the peace of mind that what goes around comes around.

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

He never promised you a rose garden

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

I believe any mother-in-law owes her first alligence to her son--not her daughter-in-law. Remember that when you are a wife. Being a wife means standing alongside her husband, and being his friend and confidant. A wife must keep the things he has told her about his mother TO HERSELF!! His secrets are her secrets.

That is the best way to help him

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November 27, 2007, 7:37 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

At least you vist sometimes. You may not enjoy it and you have decided to deal with it your way..But it doesn't sound like you have forced your husband to completely abandon his family. And I bet your MIL was at the wedding. Despite how either one of you may have felt about her at the time.

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June 2, 2008, 12:19 pm PDT

I understand this epi all to well

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

I agree i dont think everyone should think that its the brides fault, i understand where the bride to be and the son are coming from,

my boyfriend and I had a simular situation with his mother, (although this mother wasnt half as bad as my boyfriends mother) i see where these two are coming from i dont blame them at all, this women is trying to make everyone feel bad for her i dont

dont get me wrong i dont think that the bride to be should be saying the things she should be saying, grow up and just ignore the women, leave it to the son to deal with her, the son should be dealing with the mother in how he sees fit, the bride to be shouldnt be yelling and telling the mother off and what not she should grow up and take a breath before answering this women, the bride to be should defently grow up and the son should be dealing with all of this.

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June 2, 2008, 2:57 pm PDT

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

Have you read what you have just written over again? Please, I beg you to read it again and see how completely immature you are being. All I can say is grow up and get over it. You'll regret it one day...trust me!

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June 24, 2008, 4:25 pm PDT

06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

I agree with this message........... I am in a quarrel with my own mother in law & believe me she is no angel!!! Alot of the things this couple on Dr. Phil went through is very similar to what I am going through myself with my own mother in law & believe me it is hard very hard to forgive some things, when they continue & continue especially lies............I feel for Michelle & I hope she sticks to her guns, she shouldn't have to live this way & maybe the mother in law will realize that someday before she looses her son altogether...............

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11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

WHAT!?!?

your one of those dil.

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

He never promised you a rose garden

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

I understand this epi all to well

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