Replies to '12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom'

have you thought about adoption?  there are so many unwanted children all over the world

Yes I am sure you have heard this from everyone (and so did I, and I thought if I heard it again I would screem!) But turn it over to God and relax.  I did after 7 years and Feb. 1996 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl four years and one miscarrage later I gave birth to a handsome baby boy in may of 2000.  I am a older mom (I always wanted to be a hip young mom) but that must not have been what God had wanted.  So now I am a very happy somewhat hip older mom (unless you ask my daughter!) But just remember I know it seems like you are the only one.  But there are others just like you here to surport you!  I will pray for you!

My Daughter and her Husband waited until they felt established in their marriage to have a baby and when the time came they had a problem and tried for several years before consulting a specialist.  They were told that their chances of conceiving naturally were very slim and were given options about fertility treatments.  They mutually decided that they didn't want to go through this expense or the disappointments if the treatments failed.  May daughter told me this and said "Mom, you're just going to have to pray".  I did this along with many other prayers and about a year later my daughter was pregnant and a few weeks ago gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  Sometimes, you just have to slow down, pray and have faith that God know the best time for a baby to be brought into this world.

i am 37 yrs old i have eight month old twins , my husband and i tried for 5 yrs and nothing, we wound up doing fertility,i took shots and i got preg with my twins, it was a blessing during that time my husband had testicle cancer, and they said that he would be sterile so we wouldnt be able to have anymore children, i did wind up getting preg with another set of twins on our own,but I miscarried last week.  i am devestated, but know we are thinking of maybe trying again for another baby next yr,dont give up, it will happend believe me, what i did is they incereted my husbands sperm with my eggs and then incerted them into me, ask your dr about that i believe it is called icsi.

Have you thought about adoption?  God gives us free will and many people have children that shouldn't.  I think the people that can't have children but long for families have a purpose to fullfill.  I think that purpose is helping the unfortunate children whose parents had kids but didn't want them.

 Have you ever thought about having someone donate eggs for you

I can totally relate to what you are going through.  I am a 35 year old married woman who has been trying to get pregnant for 2 years also.  I too always imagined myself being a mom so we started trying right from the "I do".  Everything you are saying I understand and sympathize with.  We too are in that very low percent tile of "unexplained infertility".  To be honest, for us, the not knowing why we're not getting pregnant might be harder than knowing that there is a problem since there is nothing to "fix".  My husband and I both seem to be very healthy with no problems.  If you don't mind me asking, how far have you gone to this point?  Have you tried IVF yet?  That is going to be our next step (we already did 3 rounds of IUI).  But anyway, I just wanted you to know that there is someone out there who is going through the same thing you are, and it's ok to be frustrated and upset (I allow myself every month when the test comes out negative to get upset and even cry as needed - but then move on and start over)  My only advice, if you haven't already, take a break from it for a couple of months.  We just did that and went on vacation and had a wonderful time.  It was nice to be able to drink alcohol and eat whatever I wanted (I don't really drink while trying and also watch what I eat - like no blue cheese).  And now we're ready to try to conquer this once again.  We have a plan as to how far we'll go and how long we'll do it for.  Good luck to you.  I will keep my fingers crossed that it happens for you and your husband real soon.

you have probably heard this word many times... Relax. It is not easy but it works. For years after a non viable pregnancy my husband and I tryied to get pregnant... we knew our limit: no IVF treatments but I did try some low lever hormones among acupunture  and counting days.  I drank a lot of vitamins and herbs... talked to councelors, checked my temperature and all that... and then when we had decided to wait and see... to relax and had agreed on adoption the best thing happened: we got pregnant...

 

Now I am in my 8th month of pregnancy of a loved and cherished girl. It has not been easy... Ihave been on bedrest for the last 4 months but when I see and feel my girl move inside of me...  it feels like God is smiling on my family. So please... please - I know it is not easy - relax... have faith and hope.  Adoption for us was the best option beside conceiving ourselves and it is not a disposable idea... we will still adopt but for now we are enjoying the best holiday season ever... our pregnancy!

 

While I can sympathize with you, I have no idea what you are going through.  I am one of those people who gets pregnant just because I can't count and missed my date by one day.  I can't imagine life without my children.  I can maybe offer you some advice, though.  We have a married couple that we are friends with that had a lot of trouble getting pregnant.  She told me that one of her doctors told her to stop trying so hard.  You can try too hard to get pregnant, and that will make your efforts ineffective.  Don't make it a job.  If you are too stressed out, you can actually make it harder to get pregnant.  This doctor told her that the best thing she could do, especially if she couldn't afford the treatments, just be healthy, take care of herself, and don't obsess about it.  You can try too hard.  Also, if the doctors aren't sure why, meaning they can't find any dysfunction for either of you, it could just be stress and bad timing.  You can buy over the counter ovulation kits that will tell you if you are ovulating.  Just watch your cycle, and most importantly, take care of yourself and your marriage.  I wish you luck.  I hope you are successful, because there is nothing like motherhood in the world.  Keep your spirits up, and take care of the important things in your life, too.