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January 17, 2008, 1:06 pm PST

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   What do you do when the mother won't allow the son to use the phone, go out of the house, get a driver's license, or go anywhere without her?  He's 36 years old, but regresses to about 6 when she starts in on him.  He's not allowed to have friends.  He works full time.  He gives her most of his money.  Most of the time she sits in the driveway where he works so he doesn't talk to anyone else. She has him completely intimidated.  A little bit of a twist on this topic.
This is a lot of a twist! You’ve described an overbearing, manipulative mother who craves complete control. She will have that complete control unless/until her grown son makes the decision to get out. What would happen if he didn’t give her most of his money? What would happen if he made a secret plan to ‘escape,’ if he had someone helping him save money towards that goal?
Is this a friend of yours?
 
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January 17, 2008, 6:25 pm PST

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   What do you do when the mother won't allow the son to use the phone, go out of the house, get a driver's license, or go anywhere without her?  He's 36 years old, but regresses to about 6 when she starts in on him.  He's not allowed to have friends.  He works full time.  He gives her most of his money.  Most of the time she sits in the driveway where he works so he doesn't talk to anyone else. She has him completely intimidated.  A little bit of a twist on this topic.
It  sounds like the son has some things going on too.  He may not like the control his mother has over him, but he is not willing bite the bullet and tell her he needs his freedom.  I do understand how parents can make you feel guilty, I grew up that way.  But, you just have to put down your foot and say, "I need my own life."  I had to do just that, but I was a lot yunger than this guy.  My parents actually did not speak to me for about 3 months after I left, but we are all the better for it today.
 


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