Replies to '05/06 Moochers'

I have married a man who lived with his family till he was 35. He tries to mooch. He is very much a momma's boy. It has become a big marital proble.

Tanya, Tanya, Tanya.....   I hope you go back and watch this show.  Ryan lied right in front of you. You need to run as fast as you can from this guy.  You know he doesn't support his child, stop making excuses for him.  Your future with this guy is not a good one.  Grandma and Grandpa are paying his truck payment and insurance.  WHY?  I would be talking with the grandparents about the money he is saying that goes to his babies momma. I would bet this is another lie...

 

Mark needs to get out of his sister's basement. Shame on you Mom for making her feel guily.  Let him live with you if you think he needs a place to live. Your daughter has her own children to take care of.  Mark is your son, if you want better for him then you take care of him instead of shifting the burdon on your other child.  She is the last person that should be taking care of him....

 no matter what, it must be very hard for a family to just "throw" a son/brother, etc "out on the street," so to speak. i get what dr. phil means when he says that's selfish, that they're thinking about how they feel and not what's best for mark. but i think it's more than just about not wanting to worry -- it's the things they're worried about -- the image of him starving or sleeping in his car and being robbed, etc, the consequences that might occur if they cut him off. depending on where they live, these are very real possibilities, and saying "i was just trying to help him  get his life started" won't help much if he's found beaten up or worse.so i doubt they're just going to kick him out and "change the locks," just like that!

am i saying things should stay the way they are? no, of course not, but i think there has to be a definite plan for helping him get on his feet. maybe a job placement agency.and a deadline for him to get out of his sister's house. (if he's not out by that date, then she puts his tuff out on the sidewalk and changes her locks, etc.)