Quote From: cpe0317195people who are unaccepting of gays have me feeling distraught, anxious, saddened, yet still hopeful. my husband & i have three beautiful & loving children all in their mid-twenties and our middle child (a daughter) is a lesbian. i know this is difficult for people to understand because in the beginning (when we came to the final realization) you do think maybe they will grow out of it (but that is our own insecurities coming out)...but seeing the daily struggles of our daughter starting in her early teens trying to be whom everyone expected her to be and not her true soul was truly sad for her...and ultimately us. through lots of tears & tribulations our daughter is today a successful & happy person. we are thankful and blessed because our extended family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and friends) have turned out to be very loving and supportive. this past year our daughter had a commitment ceremony and is now "married" to a beautiful african-american woman with a young daughter. my daughters partner was married once before to a man because she also did in her younger years what was expected of her....though now in retrospect we are all thankful that my daughter and her partner have a daughter!....also i might add she got married to do what is expected because her brother was already out of the closet being gay...they are the only two siblings in their family. now we have a beautiful blended multi-cultural extended family and we all love one another and get along!!!...in fact we are ALL going on a cruise together in 2006!
I can completely empathize with you and also feel distraught, saddened, and even angry. My only
daughter is gay and lives with her partner who is Venezualan. She is 35 and is a successful
professional. She came out when she 18. I too, inaccurately thought that she would " grow out "
of it. But now realize and believe that it is NOT a choice. I accept and love her for herself. I visit them
and stay with them periodically. [ I live several states away ]. I only wish for her happiness , regardless of her orientation. I applaud your loving and open minded attitude towards your
daughter. Too often, a parent's love is conditional. If we really love our children , it should be
unconditionally and complete. I get so angry sometimes, when I hear so called " Christians "
judging and looking down on gays. They live in such a narrow , self righteous world. Jesus
taught love and tolerance. That certainly isn't followed today by most people.
