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Topic : 02/14 Love Smart Island, Part 2

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Created on : Friday, February 10, 2006, 12:47:04 pm
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It's brutal. It's cutthroat. It's competitive. It leaves you wounded, scarred and absolutely exhausted. We're talking about LOVE! A group of frustrated singles set sail for a getaway on Catalina Island so they can learn how to start "loving smart." Three women, who admit they're very picky, agree to an experiment to see what would happen if they're unable to judge a book by its cover. With blindfolds on, they go out on dates with men who think their appearances might not measure up with what women are looking for. Will these nice guys finish last when the blindfolds are removed? Then, Dillon and Donna have been dating for two years, yet she can't get over her insane jealousy. Will she be able to get her green-eyed monster under control before it runs him off? Plus, the latest on the love triangle among Todd, Hayley and Chad, and your chance to meet these eligible singles! Share your thoughts.

 

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February 14, 2006, 4:03 pm CST

hello

well  it is hard to find a man too.    i live in a small town and it seems not many guys are single.   i don't drink or go too clubs or party.  so how  do i find a man then..  
 
February 14, 2006, 4:06 pm CST

SOOOO TRUE!!!

Quote From: ottawa2

Why, on many memorable occasions on TV, cute girls are set up with self conscious guys and they are supposed to think they are prince charming?   the bachelors were all over 30 , with most girls  younger.  

  

I wanna see some cute confident guy with and a blindford tell an overweight girl she is it because of her winning personality afther the blindfold is removed. 

  

Ok a bit jaded but dont like the message this stuff sends about women.  I see more young cute girls with father figures or bill gates than I see brad pitt with kathy bates. 

  

Side track but worth mentioning,  I play a sport where a lot of men who were self proclaimed nerds in highschool get into it and become athletes.   Some of these guys I never would have thought were my type, being a more hourglass girl, dont like guys I can throw over my shoulder like a sack of potatoes..  Their confidence and athletic ability made them attractive to me...not all superficial, realize there is much more.  Just needed to stand up on this one, first time I was very dissapointed in Dr. Phils judgement and sense of fairness. 

Had the tables been reversed with gorgeous guys and overweight or so-called unattractive women people would have just called the guys jerks or typical guys and it would have been the end of the story.   

  

Since it was women I think there was a double standard applied and these poor girls are being torn apart on every level.  Come on people, we had a highly edited, 5-10 minute glimpse into their lives (which was not even their true lives).  I find it hard to believe that all of these people being so hard on these women never turned a person down because they didn't find them attractive...let's get real here!!!  Not finding someone attractive doesn't make you a villain, shallow, mean, snotty, etc., it just makes you human. 

 
February 14, 2006, 4:12 pm CST

just curious

Quote From: ladybug11

well  it is hard to find a man too.    i live in a small town and it seems not many guys are single.   i don't drink or go too clubs or party.  so how  do i find a man then..  

Hey!  Don't worry about finding a man for now...just let life happen.  You sound like a great girl if you are the same girl i read earlier (lol)...You are so right not to meet men in bars. 

  

If you happen to live anywhere they teach ballroom dance classes,,,that is a very fun way to meet people,,,both male and female.  Take tennis lessons,,,I have made some nice male friends from that as well.  You can start playing tennis at any age. 

  

All the best! 

rg 

 
February 14, 2006, 4:15 pm CST

find your self first before u find some one for u

 HI there how are u my name is david from edmonron alberta canada:

sitting here watching dr phil then now watching oprah with garth brroks and trisha yearwood just adds to the messege that i think as a guy we have to be true to ourselfs and honest as ucan be open to  communication and so on..Iam singel person sort of also  dating someone as i sit here today  i have been find ing  who i really am.. but i just dont want  to feel totally alone so i am here at moment for today , but not sure if iam here for tomorrow  meaning  when i fall in love with some one i wouild like to find out what kind of a person iam from now to the end of out time..when ifind that spcial some one  i know what i can give... and  iknow i would not choose a few of those females from the island  cause when u think u are betther then anyone  else  therre is  that boundry where is so super ficial  and actually depressing to see cause u  know u would be in hell  in that type of relationship.. i know iam no  hunk but i do know iam an everyday kind of guy yes i do smoke cigs and yes i do smoke weed  i think  its ok tto do  so ,, anyways   this  show   was ok  lots of nice personalities in some of  the women for sure.. ladies ian here
 
February 14, 2006, 4:19 pm CST

Dating over 50?

Quote From: jansdragon

C'mon Dr Phil catering to the younger singles is not giving your viewers the best cross section of what it is like to date at various ages.  I am going to be 54 next b'day and I have had one date in the last 5 years.  The dating rules have changed considerably since you and I were in the "single" mode.  Why not profile single people who are single again after a lengthy relationship is no more either through death or divorce.  Watching "love triangles" though entertaining is not information that I need nor want. So how about stepping up to the plate and including us older ones in your "experiment of love"

This is just what I was thinking as today's show ended. Why not feature older women whose dating problems are quite different from those who are actively on the dating scene? I am 50 and, as they say, "look great for my age" (anybody else hate that?). I think that a big problem has to do with being an independent, professional woman. Holding a graduate degree seems to make it worse. I've noticed that this seems to be a trend--I've been following a series of articles in our local newspaper that features a different successful businessperson every week. Over the past year or so that I've been reading the column, I've noticed that all of the men but one listed a wife; none--not one!--of the women listed a spouse. As a matter of fact, I have a group of friends all close to my age, all educated and professional..... none of us really date, and not out of choice.  

  

So, Dr. Phil...... What do you think? 

  

  

  

  

 
February 14, 2006, 4:40 pm CST

quote

Quote From: hitechgirl

Hey!  Don't worry about finding a man for now...just let life happen.  You sound like a great girl if you are the same girl i read earlier (lol)...You are so right not to meet men in bars. 

  

If you happen to live anywhere they teach ballroom dance classes,,,that is a very fun way to meet people,,,both male and female.  Take tennis lessons,,,I have made some nice male friends from that as well.  You can start playing tennis at any age. 

  

All the best! 

rg 

thanks!!!!!!!!!!
 
February 14, 2006, 4:59 pm CST

We are out there

Quote From: spreston

I certainly concur with noted comments from a mature female who has difficulty meeting equals. 

Viewing the immaturity and 'trophy' mentality of the immature female guests is not mainstream 

America and does not represent a broad base that is in their 30-50's who are single, divorced 

or widowed.  That group has sincere voids in establishing relationships with their careers and 

personal commitments. 

I am 56 , run and swim everyday with a vivrant career in retail management, but do not date 

or have any relationships with the opposite sex.   I have no desire to be in the bars/nighclubs 

scene.  I feel I am professional, educated, well-spoken, and moderately handsome.... but  

I attract zero females.   Where is the 'target rich enviornment'  you speak of Dr. Phil? 

  

Seeing 50 closing in, I enjoyed the Dr. Phil shows on Love Smart. I took away those things that would help me. We are all doing something - the gym, the bookstore, charity dinners. Sooner or later you'll meet someone. OK- I haven't scored a date yet, but I'm hopeful! It's hard too to do it alone - only one of my women friends is single like me. We are both trying though and support each other with positive reinforcement.
 
February 14, 2006, 5:12 pm CST

Ditto the comments about us older women.

Quote From: profsea

This is just what I was thinking as today's show ended. Why not feature older women whose dating problems are quite different from those who are actively on the dating scene? I am 50 and, as they say, "look great for my age" (anybody else hate that?). I think that a big problem has to do with being an independent, professional woman. Holding a graduate degree seems to make it worse. I've noticed that this seems to be a trend--I've been following a series of articles in our local newspaper that features a different successful businessperson every week. Over the past year or so that I've been reading the column, I've noticed that all of the men but one listed a wife; none--not one!--of the women listed a spouse. As a matter of fact, I have a group of friends all close to my age, all educated and professional..... none of us really date, and not out of choice.  

  

So, Dr. Phil...... What do you think? 

  

  

  

  

For most of us the things that come with age are wisdom, maturity, humor, acceptance, tolerance, openmindedness, and a sense of spritual connection with with the world. We are tall, thin, short, chubby, husky, short, medum, black, yellow, white, red and every hue in between. Successful in all areas of life not just financial. Independence should be seen as a plus to a relationship not a minus. Of course the minus perspective isn't really about us is it? I am strong, independent, successful, compassionate, passionate, generous, a gardener, kyaker, rock collector, medator, healer, a worker among workers. I would be a great partner for someone who is willing to work, wait, talk, love and share my life.
 
February 14, 2006, 5:35 pm CST

Love Smart Island Guys

I thought the guys on tonight's show were great!  Especially Marty!  I thought he was charming, witty, and quite handsome.  I only wish that there were more guys who weren't so into themselves here in Florida.  Not all guys in FL are that way but it seems that by the time they get to be in their 40's and 50's, many are into their accomplishments and egos.
 
February 14, 2006, 5:36 pm CST

tonight"s show

Hi! 

          I just saw tonigh"s show.  All the people are young, not one once overweight, and excruciatingly atractive.  what about those of us who are a little older , heavier, and badly average in looks? Does this predict a downright epidemic in suicide for those of us who are downright ugly????   Maybe I am surprised that good-looking folks have as many, if not more, problems, like jealousy and paranioa. I guess my  delima is that all 3 of my ex'scheated on me, and 2 of them beat me , at which point I left right away,but I am an electrian; which means I am around men all the time; and I am convinced that every man will cheat on his wife if he thinks for one second that he will not get caught.My son and I have been aloine since he was 2 weeks old.{His father went to prison} and my son is now 15.I have help from no one except food stamps {for 3 years}and of course, the big Guy upstairs. Any hope for me or what? 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 
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