Topic : *A Dr. Phil Prime Time Special: Love Smart*

Loved the show Doctor Phil and not just because Paula was on it.  After seeing the show the previous day regarding how women treat men differently from women, I decided to watch the special.  It was hopeful and I need to have a better plan to respond to men in a more positive way and enjoy the time together... Instead of thinking that enjoying myself may lead them to feel lead on if I decline a date.  

  

I think Paula is just amazing to expose herself and especially to let us see Dr. P.'s work with her.  It was informative and hopeful.  I read the relationship myths on the site, outstanding.  

I, too, would love to see Dr. Phil speak to the 'over 40 set' about finding -- and keeping -- a partner. I am a single, 45-year old woman, with a wonderful, 14-year old daughter. Active, attractive, no drama, but love and and a lasting partnership continue to elude me. I am mystified. Not only mystified, but on the verge of giving up. I don't want to grow old alone, but I don't know what I am doing wrong. I think I need Dr. Phil.

I fully concur and also express those same sentiments!! 

  

  

                                                                                                                                                Brian 

Hi Ana, 

  

I admired your courage for being in that situation and being on National TV.  I commend your effort to hold on to someone that you were in love with, for only knowing one side of his story.  From my point of view and what they showed on the TV, I didn't htink he was right for you anyway. 

  

It is always better to know the truth before it went any farther. 

  

Talk care 

  

Cindy in FL 

Now jplayers like Rob have a handbook that coaches them to say the right things making them even more convincing.  As Dr. Phil said, those 3 girls only suffered from being trusting, not stupidity.   

  

Unfortunately, there are many players who could care less about breaking a girl's heart as long as their egos are fed. 

  

The book is a nice idea, and may actually help some find the right lover, but lets face it.  Men don't tell the truth on the first date, and many won't start coming clean as to their real feelings until much later in the relatioinship when its too late to learn about the real him behind the facade.  That is fact. 

I noticed that Paula wasn't the one who told the poor songster that he didn't cut it.  Dr. Phil took on that dirty job.  So where are the examples for us who don't have Dr Phil on our first date as to how to handle telling the guy he ain't what we are looking for?

  

  I'm happy for Paula that she met someone she is willing to trust and take a certain risk with. Its a risk for him as well as her. Glad Dr Phil was there for her and him. GOOD STUFF!!! You either get it or you don't. 

Here's an idea for you. 

Do another special but this time the guest should be Teri Hatcher.  

Everyone is writing about donna being overly jealous, when I was watching them, I could understand why she was soo jealous, he boyfriend makes her feel insecure!!!
He did not stand up for her. I think when your boyfriend does not make you feel secure, and makes you doubt, it will cause any sensitive girl to react the way donna did. I just think it's a lot to do with Dillion, he is soo immature and soo insincere. He  was using his problems with donna to send out a message to the single girls that he is vulnerable, and unhappy and make them want to take care of him. It was a way to lure the single girls in!!! What a jerk! Im sorry but I think this relationship is not going to las, if he continues to flirt and talk to single girls the way he does, then yes donna will be jealous, any girlfriend will be ! I just hope donna learns that he is not worth it and leave him. I had a ex that made me feel like that all the time deliberately and he knew I loved him. But the guy that Im with, wow I am soo secure with him, I do not feel any jealousy,  because he makes me feel like im the only girl in the whole world and I love him for that!

I wish someone would research the phenonom of online or long distance relationships being more intense and harder to overcome the heartache.  I and 2 of my friends have experienced the euphoric high of long distance love only to have had it come crashing down.  The lost of that love is harder to overcome than my 20 year relationship and divorce.  The LD dreams still haunts me.  What's up with that?  My friends say they feel the same. 

  

I'd bet big bucks the poor girl whose relationship began online with Rob finds it harder to come to terms with her heartache.