Topic : 02/21 More Wifestyles

Actually, I think Diana (perhaps unwittingly) makes a very good point here..... 

Is a loving, supportive, helpful husband the key to a happy, well-run home and family? 

OR   

Is a Mexican food cooking, Hip Hop dancing, Major Appliance Maintaining, Martha Stewart wannabe wife the key to a happy, loving husband? 

Food for thought..... 

I can go through the list and pick it a part item by item if that is what you need from me to prove that it is possible.  The preventitve maintenance is just good common  sense, but if you don't want to do that you can always just have your husband buy you what is needed when it breaks down ( no pressure on him at all there).  By the way,  I did not say this list was fun, Grant said he thought some of the items would be fun. 
BEYOND THAT, ask YOUR husband how much FUN he has at work.   

I stand firm in my conclusions.  I live in a house that is over 4, 000 square feet have two children, and yes they are still in diapers, and I can keep it organized and FUN at the same time. 

I also think I figured out why you are so negative on the whole thing.  You have been big on the whole age thing with the people who oppose you, apparently since you seem to think we are all sooo young.   Maybe, because you haven't been able to accomplish the things that we have, without using your degrading tactics towards your husband, you just can't stand the idea that others can do it better. 

Do you believe having an organized house would help you in your day to day activities?  I am not talking about cleaning, just organized. 

Do you believe that it is o.k. to do all sorts of arts and crafts projects, have dishes that you've used and the house a mess because of the things you've done all day with the kids, and then expect your husband to come in and help pick it up? 

Maybe I am just blessed to have a husband who I don't have to pick up after.  Yes I do the laundry and the cooking, but he picks up after himself.  Is this a problem for you?  Do your husbands make a mess and expect you to clean it up?   

I guess I am just a little confused about some of you points and maybe it is because I already have an amazing husband that I haven't had to confront him on the issues that you all are writing about. 

There are two persons in a marriage, wife AND husband, so if we are going to ask "What is the role of a wife"?, then let us also ask "What is the role of a husband?" 

If a wife is expected to keep a "traditional" role, and be a cook, housekeeper and caretaker for her children, then shouldn't the husband be expected to keep up his "traditional" role as a provider?  If a wife is expected to keep an emaculate house, shouldn't the husband be expected to have a better career than the average man? 

Grant wants a traditional wife who will "reach her potential", but how is HE as a provider?  Does he make a six-figure income?  With the sorts of expectations he has of his wife, he'd better be a perfect husband. 

Do you believe having an organized house would help you in your day to day activities?  I am not talking about cleaning, just organized.  

Yes! 

Do you believe that it is o.k. to do all sorts of arts and crafts projects, have dishes that you've used and the house a mess because of the things you've done all day with the kids, and then expect your husband to come in and help pick it up?  

LOL.  I don't think it's okay for a wife to ask for this until she goes and does his job, too. 

Maybe I am just blessed to have a husband who I don't have to pick up after.  Yes I do the laundry and the cooking, but he picks up after himself.  Is this a problem for you?  Do your husbands make a mess and expect you to clean it up?   

Nope.  Because there's a mutual respect! 

I guess I am just a little confused about some of you points and maybe it is because I already have an amazing husband that I haven't had to confront him on the issues that you all are writing about.  

Sorry, I know that post wasn't for me, and as it's been pointed out, "It's not all about me", but I felt compelled to answer nonetheless.  Excellent points. 

And it's no surprise.  The ongoing one-upmanship (make that upwomanship) on who is right and who is wrong about everything under the sun to do with marriage and homemaking is the kind of stuff that makes men (and some of us women) crazy.  Who the heck do you people think cares enough what you think that you have to argue and get catty with each other?  Geez Louise!   And I thought Grant was a right-fighter!