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February 28, 2006, 9:57 am PST
Just doesn't work that way
Quote From: chilli67The mother in law on the show came off as this sweet little old lady,and I am sure this is why the cops in her town let her get away with stalking these poor people! Everytime the daughter inlaw got upset,the motherinlaw had this evil grin,like the cat who disemboweled the canary. This woman(the motherinlaw) doesnt give 2 dimes about her grandchildren,except to control and manipulate them just like she did her son. She has a severe case of Bordeline Personality Disorder,and I am shocked Dr. Phil didnt give these people the advice he should have,and that's "NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT!!" Keep your kids as far away from this woman as possible!! It's also unrealistic for Dr Phill to suggest they move their whole family,including her disabled mother,away from her. WHAT THEY NEED TO DO IS START RECORDING each and every encounter with this evil woman,and MAKING the police do their jobs!! If she drives down your street,tape it. If she calls, tape it!! Bring your camcorder/tape recorder everywhere-make it your new best friend!!
There's only one way to stop people like her-and that's with firm boundaries,and NO CONTACT!!
I wish these people well on healing their marriage-but I can gaurtantee you the mother inlaw's antics will never,ever stop.
While your suggestion about recording what the woman does is a good one, very little, if any good, comes of doing such. I suppose if you end up in court, perhaps it documents the behavior. Police today are hesitant to get involved in family issues like this.
My Mother used to drive around town, with a gun in the car, threatening to shoot my husband, and on one occasion her own mother and a friend of the family who witnessed it for himself. We have her, on tape, threatening to have my husband's feet put in concrete boots, and then thrown off the high rise bridge in the area. We had her involuntarily committed only to have her out of the hospital within 24 hours. When we appealed to the court for the restraining order, it took two months just to get her served with the summons to appear. The officer(s) would go to the house, see her inside, but be unable to get her to come to the door. She would smile at them, flip 'em the finger, and even sneak out the back, crank up the car, and just about run over the deputy as she backed down the driveway. To get her served, we had to figure out where she might be at what time, and when we spotted her at a fast-food restaurant, called the police and asked them to hurry there with the summons. We have tape after tape after tape of her threats and obscenities on the answering machine, and caller ID saved us from many ugly confrontations over the telephone. It was not uncommon for her to call the house every five to ten minutes throughout the day. She would call my place of work and leave "subtle" nasty messages; I knew what she was doing, however. Not answering the phone or returning messages didn't stop her. She would drive over to our home, sit in her car in the driveway, and blow the horn until someone came out to speak to her. When my sister got into an argument with her one afternoon, and asked her to please leave (it was upsetting the baby), Mother refused, and it took the police coming to the house, putting handcuffs on the woman, and escorting her out to patrol car.
Your advice about NO CONTACT is actually on the mark. My sister has never been able to go as far to avoid the whole scene as what I have, and I've had to point out to her that at the least, then, the relationship with Mother must be on her terms, not Mother's. I admire her in some ways for still hanging in there when it's a lost cause, but it hasn't come without a price to her, her marriage, and her unfortunate children.
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(Original Air Date: 02/28/06) Manipulative, violent and diabolical. These are just some of the words Anna-Laura uses to describe her mother-in-law, Janice, who she says is destroying her marriage. Anna-Laura says Janice hates her so much, she’s taken a swing at her and even threatened to hire someone to kill her. Janice denies the accusations and says they’re all lies. Where does Morgan, Anna-Laura’s husband, stand on the issue? After not speaking for almost a year, Anna-Laura and Morgan face off with Janice in front of Dr. Phil. With their relationship on the rocks, can Anna-Laura and Morgan find a way to end this war with his mother and save their marriage? If your extended family is spiraling out of control, find out how to get your relationship to take a turn in the other direction. Join the discussion.
