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(Original Air Date: 03/07/06) Dr. Phil explores the ups and downs of bipolar disorder. This illness takes its victims on an emotional rollercoaster ride -- from elation to extreme irritability, intense rage, or devastating depression. First, Cathy was diagnosed with Bipolar II, 10 years ago and claims she goes from zero to psycho in 15 seconds. Dr. Phil takes a look at the toll her disorder takes on her two boys, and brings the family together for a dramatic moment of emotional healing. Then, during various manic episodes, Fred has stolen a taxi, crashed into a Starbucks, and climbed to the top of a church. He hears voices and believes that movie stars like Denzel Washington and Robert De Niro are talking to him through their movies. Still, Fred thinks he’s ready to move out of his parents’ house and live on his own for good … but should his family let him? Talk about the show here.

 

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June 1, 2007, 6:50 am CDT

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Quote From: slytlymad

 I get frustrated when people don't know the answers, I'm sorry but it just bugs me.  I was born with bi-polar disorder; I inherited it from my mother and didn't know until I was in my forties!  I confirmed it by asking my father when he was in a vulnerable position this year.  I guess it just wasn't talked about when growing up due to social fear and fear of being put in a state hospital for the rest of her life.  BP was called manic depressive disorder up to the 1990's and it was considered a Mental Illness. It has now been physically proven to be a mood disorder caused by chemical imbalances.  My oldest sister has BP with ADHD(?) and I have psychosis attached to it.  Anxiety, panic attacks and psychosis can be attached to BP as well.  My anxiety can be so bad that panic attacks cause me to see things out of the ordinary.  Things that scare the hell out of me.  Bi-Polar disorder is not something new!!  It's just a new name for something old.  I could tell you some really sad stories and some crazy ones but not today.  Thanks for listening and reply if you want. 

Hi, im Ally.  I know exactly what you are talking about, though I didnt inherit it.  The mixed emotions, 'deadness' inside, frustration etc. I understand.  I am 24 and was diagnosed with bipolar and severe psychosis to the point that I landed up in a mental hospital when I was 19.  It was a long and difficult road to walk on especially if no one understands how you truly feel inside.  All I can say is even with all your medication you take, try not to loose yourself in the proccess.  remember who you are, a mental disorder doesn't define who you are.  Depression is terrible and the severe high's is worse, especially when your energy dropps again to a low.  what helped for me was when I went manic from a high I tried not to use all that energy and when the low hits you still have energy to carry it through.  There is so much I would like to tell you.  It has been 2 years since I have weened myself off medication and I havent had any mood changes yet and I feel great.  Now dont just leave your meds, but try to train yourself not to let this get the best off you.  Adapt to the situation until the storm moves over.  Alesia

 
September 4, 2007, 8:01 pm CDT

08/01 Extreme Highs and Lows

Quote From: kimbies

 I am a mother of five children and in Aug. of 2004 my "husband" had a mental breakdown and was diagnosed bipolar with dillutional disorder. He had a life that I knew nothing about, he had a long lasting affair with two children with the lady, loans and credit cards like crazy and even signed my name to things I knew nithing about. I am still amazed that he was able to turn it on and off like a light switch! I didn't see any signs or warning signals! 

Our life has been ruined! I  stood by him for 17 months of him being in and out of the hospital. He refuses to stay on his medicine and as a result has "two voices" that are two freinds from his past that gave him signs to follow, if he fails then he says they will kill him. When I saw what it was doing to my kids, my 3 year old daughter was crying uncontrolable because she thought someone was going to kill her Dad, along with the fact that his family was becoming emotionally abusive to myself and my kids ( go figure, all of this was my fault and boy did they call me all sorts of names and tried to take my kids from me and cuased me so much extra stress that friends were afraid that I was about to have a breakdown myself! ), adding the fact that he had us so far in trouble that we became homeless, I left town with my children and we are now staying with family! 

Now, I am every bad name in the book and my kids and I are struggeking to get by, I haven't seen a sign of support or help yet his father bought him a home, pays all his bills and gives him money for everything he wants yet my kids are eating penutbutter, wearing old torn clothes and shoes and have lost everything they new in life!   

I am trying to find a job but at 39 and no skills ( I was a stay at home mom ) I can not finding anything and the few jobs that I  were available  don't even pay enough to cover child care........ 

We have searched for help and one thing we have learned for sure is that the mental health profession is seriously lacking! Getting him help is next to impossible! When he is in the hospital it is only for a few days and they don't really help and they dismiss me like I am stupid! We lost our insurance and the shots he was on was 600.00 every two weeks! at this current moment he has been off his medicine for 8 weeks and is spiraling out of control very fast!!! I am afraid of him and his family! He wants to see the kids but is not very stable! The school is even been told because his family has said they will help him kidnap the kids and go into hiding so I will never see them again! 

I live in constant  fear and a state of depression! I use to worry about putting my kids through college and now I worry about just having food to eat and finding someplace to live!!! 

I am out of options and hope! I pray that this show will give me some ideas as to where to go for help. 

You say he turned it off for four months, mine was able to do so for 15 years!  It is hard enough to dealwith but add being unfaithful on top off it and it can tear out your heart! I don't know if your husband is like mine, but please check your credit reports, your checking and savings accounts, and anything else that pertians to money! He even borried against our life insurance policies! 

  

I plead with everyone in this position to take steps to protect yourself! My family is ruined,our life is ruined! I don't know if I will ever be to correct all the damage he has done! 

  

If there are support groups or organizations that people can turn to for help, please speak up.... there are so many of us looking for help! 

  

I wish you the best of luck! I hope you find the answers we all need! 

I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to you and your kids. I had a similar situation like you. My mother-in laws has bipolar disorder. She tought that she was fine and stopped the medications few years ago. She almost destroyed my family and took away our son. I stood up and fought back to stop her damaging my family. My husband couldn't deal with her so left me alone to take care everything. I learnt  that we need to protect ourselves in order to save our own family. I don't mean to be selfish or mean but the other family members should be aware of their behavior also. In my case, none of her family believed that she could do harm things to us...except my husband of course.

Be strong and pray. Don't give up easily for the sake of your kids. You need to work and be independent. There're always a way out if you keep trying. Take care.....

 
October 13, 2007, 2:59 am CDT

my childreen left I am bipolard

 

This is my story, My father committed suicide went i was 6 years old, Doctor used him as a Ginny  pig electric chock ,the 30 pills, the grownup told me he was crazy. So i had low steamed. But I had goals when i finish college, got a good jobs, had a good spouse. What i wanted the most is a family, husband and children. I care for them and gave them all my energies, I always tough that its a privilege to be love by children their the biggest gifts God hewer give me. Joy was my life. I never imagine that caring for my kids would give my such happiness.

 

Them tragedy struck in the fall 1999 Major depression took med. 6 month, separated from husband share custody for 6 month, it took about 8 years before i had the right med  for bipolar i have lost the ability to work, my house, but most of all my children. I haven't neglected them in any ways. I'm a non violent person. I known their father talk badly about me and my illness he used to hurt me.

 

My children saw me crying a lot , had no energies but i still cook and look after their need.

 

I don't known what to do they refuse to have a relationship with me their boot teens. Ever since they move with their dad because i was hospitalize for the fourth time. I sent them gifts, right letter, call on the phone.

Their just not interested, my mom just pass away and my teens are one 18th, one 15th did not want to be their.

 

My family and friends always say they will come back.

 

My brother thinks I'm wonderful mother  because I'm helping raise is baby girl 4 days a week for the last 6 month.

 

It like nobody has a good suggestion.

 

Thank you

 

 
November 21, 2007, 12:12 am CST

mariebipolar

Quote From: canada100

 

This is my story, My father committed suicide went i was 6 years old, Doctor used him as a Ginny  pig electric chock ,the 30 pills, the grownup told me he was crazy. So i had low steamed. But I had goals when i finish college, got a good jobs, had a good spouse. What i wanted the most is a family, husband and children. I care for them and gave them all my energies, I always tough that its a privilege to be love by children their the biggest gifts God hewer give me. Joy was my life. I never imagine that caring for my kids would give my such happiness.

 

Them tragedy struck in the fall 1999 Major depression took med. 6 month, separated from husband share custody for 6 month, it took about 8 years before i had the right med  for bipolar i have lost the ability to work, my house, but most of all my children. I haven't neglected them in any ways. I'm a non violent person. I known their father talk badly about me and my illness he used to hurt me.

 

My children saw me crying a lot , had no energies but i still cook and look after their need.

 

I don't known what to do they refuse to have a relationship with me their boot teens. Ever since they move with their dad because i was hospitalize for the fourth time. I sent them gifts, right letter, call on the phone.

Their just not interested, my mom just pass away and my teens are one 18th, one 15th did not want to be their.

 

My family and friends always say they will come back.

 

My brother thinks I'm wonderful mother  because I'm helping raise is baby girl 4 days a week for the last 6 month.

 

It like nobody has a good suggestion.

 

Thank you

 

I'm so sorry you are going through this with your kids, but it sounds like the father is brainwashing the kids. When they are older, they will be back. I also feel they don't know much about bipolar illness.  Maybe you could send them a book or pamphlet on bipolar.

 

Good luck

Mariebipolar

 
November 21, 2007, 12:31 am CST

mariebipolar

Quote From: betbabe

My best friend was diagnosed bipolar about a year-and-a-half ago, though she has had symptoms for years.) She has struggled endlessly trying to find the right medications.  She is reluctant to be completely upfront with her doctor about her symptoms and hides her suffering.  (It frustrate me, because he cannot help her if he doesn't know what's wrong.)  She also often hides her inner battles from her hubby & friends so as not to be a "burden."  She is rapid-cycling and is torn apart by turbulant ups and downs. I know that the internal battle she is facing is excruciating.

 

I have tried to educate myself about the disease, reading books, pamphlets and web pages.  I have tried very hard to be a support to her.  What I do not know is how to emotionally cope when she shuts me out or throws zingers at me to push me away.  When she is stable, she is wonderful...she says she loves me and could not survive without me as a friend...when she is cycling, she acts reckless, resentful, selfish, egotystical and cruel.  She uses my insecurities to push my buttons.  (I am being treated for anxiety and depression.) It's as thought she wants everyone else to hurt as badly as she is hurting.

 

When she is herself again, she acts as though nothing has happened without mention of the "barbs" she has thrown.  Other times she admits remembering her behaviors, but dismisses them as part of being bipolar, showing no remorse or regret, as if no one matters but her and her disease.

 

I love her whole-heartedly, but am feeling a bit worn-out and frustrated.  What behaviors are her's and what behaviors are cause by the disease.  Are all poor behaviors to be excused because she is bipolar?  (I feel selfish just asking that, but I am really hurting after this last verbal attack...tired of feeling like the whipping post.) 

 

Please help me to cope & understand.   Deep down she is truly the most wonderful person I know.  I do not want to skip out on her.  

I'm bipolar and some times I do things that may hurt a friend or say something off the wall, I don't mean to it just happened. I look back later and feel bad but I just think that my friends understand it's my bipolar, so I never say I'm sorry.  I guess I think they understand and don't take it personally. I'm  a Lot better since I have been taking lithium.  What ever you do please don't take it personally because she will change again the next day or week.
 
November 27, 2007, 9:33 pm CST

08/01 Extreme Highs and Lows

Quote From: gethelp4bp

I also have BP II and am on daily medications.  I am a grandmother and pushing 50.  I have had problems leaving my home and have had panic attacks in the past.  I have problems wtih anxiety that is controlled by a good medication called Klonopin.   It is time released and really helps to keep me from becoming anxious.  Maybe anxiety is bothering you and that is why it is hard to go into the stores, etc., or you may has a mild agoraphobia.  I can relate.  I used to be very similar to you.  I wouldn't go anywhere without my husband and I do have a problem with paranoia, but my meds. help with that.  I take Effexor and Klonopin, and I keep caffeine out of my diet, well 1/2 caffeine Lite coffee, and just caffeine free drinks.  This helps a lot.  My best to you and may God bless. 
I can't believe I am not alone.  My migraines are debilitating.  I have a very serious job that requires me to be at the top of my game the entire time I am there.  I have had a migraine every day for the past 3 months and go to work pretending to function, zoned out on all the meds my specialist is constantly trying to get these migraines under control.  I also deal with anxiety and depression which is another illness that causes me to constantly try new meds and working that around the migraines is a challenge for my doctor.  I am just glad that I am not crazy or dying or all the other things that run through my head when I am in this place.  Thanks!
 
March 2, 2008, 8:03 am CST

My childreen are back in my life(I'm bipolar)

Take you for your support,

 

I have read, all your bipolar message. they most be different variation of bipolar. I never screem, break thing become violent to anyone, it took doctor 6 years to find the right medication and i did therapy and i was told i was not bipolar.They always told me i was having major depressions, shut down, no talking or walking.Two years ago one doctor gave me one kind of medication for bipolar and told me I was bipolar and was hospitalsizse for 3 weeks,  i had a phycotic  episode .So i deside to go to therapy to understand bipolar I have read about it and the behavior are very differrent form mine. Have the same friend for years, at work everbody like me , they tell me regulary. I have a foster familly, single parent. My brother leave me his  2 years old daugther (my niece) for long periode at the time. I'm not a agry person like bipolar seems to do. I no because i ask my mom before( she pass a way in oct. 2007) and dad , my best friend , They all told me youre not your self but your not dangeresse to others.

 

What i have learn is with that dease, it's possible to have a normal life on my own, If i reduce stress to a minimum, take my medication, don't drink alcool, no illegale drug.

My childreens are back in my life , the were brain wash by their father. My son call on chirsmas  2008 night to apologize , I understand that it was to difficult to seem me in depression.

 

 

I have an ex-sister in law, how is bipolar, she drink, does drug she is very unstable . She told me that she a drug addict an alcoolic also . She also have custody of my 22 month old niece.

 

HOW CAN I HELP MY BABY NIECE

the father on a burnout and is going to therapy for alcool abuse.

 

Thank you!

 
April 14, 2008, 12:08 pm CDT

bipolar shows

I sent an email to Dr. phil to do a show on bipolar disorder.  I am a sufferer of bipolar and after watching the shows Dr. phil had in the past, I am upset that that is the vision that people get of us sufferers with bipolar disorder.  Yes we do go from angry to upset to depressed to agitated and sometimes feel we are crazy and there is no hope for the normal mindframe but after watching the mother who beats her kids and the man who thinks movie stars are talking to him, i questioned my self and said..."maybe Im not this? these people are crazy."  What about doing a show on the real effects, the triggers, types of psycho-therapies, and suggestions for family members on to help and support without feeling frustrated and giving up.  It is easy for bipolar people to give up once we feel better.  And again, it is based on our mood.  We have trouble keeping and making long term decisions sometimes because many a times do we base our decisions on our mood, but it can change tomorrow.  As for the mother who reacted to her children by putting them down and degrading them, i feel sorry for her and hope for a recovery of her relationship with her children.  I am a single mother of a 3 and 4 yr. old and it is very hard to control your emotions.  But we dont all act like that to our kids.  I feel sorry for mine that when they talk to me sometimes i cant think clear.  But were not all monsters to our kids.  More extreme moods? yes.  monsters?  no.
 
July 13, 2008, 12:49 am CDT

EXTREME HIGHS AND LOWS

Quote From: momfromnc

I watch DrPhil every day but today's episode of the bipolar disease really got my asking myself questions about my daugther. She is a 11 year old ... dignosed with ADD and ADHD about 4 years ago ... She also have a mild case of cerebral palsey as well (which means she DOES NOT need help at all in the state of North Carolina) ... she has had it since birth ... just gets better and its going in the other direction right now ... During spring break this past school year, my daugther got to spend her's in the 10th floor of our local hospital (which is the Children and Adolescent Psychiatry department). You see my daugther has heard voices talking to her for years ( at least for the last 4 or 5 years ... she started to talk about them) ... 5 voices all together but only that is "bad". She can tell you anything you want to know about this person that she hears. From what she wears ... what she looks like ... to what her house looks like on the inside ... The "bad" one is now intruding her to hurt me, her grandma and her brother ... Knives and guns she says ...She was ready to get help ... so I took her ...  She was in the hospital for a week and all they wanted to do was dope her up . I told them to release her and I could do that at home with benedryl (which I would NEVER do) but to just show them how stupid I thought they were. After that ... they scheduled her an appointment at a recoverly center here in Winston Salem, NC. They are helping her more than the hospital but to start with they were going to asset her for bipolar ... Talking to the Dr and he is saying schizophrenia. I wrote all of this to ask this one question ........ Is there a difference in bipolar and schizophrenia? If so ... could someone please tell me ... I want them to help her but help her with what it "truely" wrong with her.

Thank You in Advance

 

Dear Mom From NYC,

       I am the lady who's son was so manic that when he was 24 he left town, bought a new car, wrecked it by broadsiding a woman. We found out about a year ago that he thought that his car could fly through the other one. This son has either schizoaffective disorder and bi-polar, or he is schizophrenic. We haven't gotten the same answer from anyone yet but we think it is the first. Either one is terrible. I don't wish this on anyone's family. So far after about 4 years time, we have spent a quarter of a million dollars on getting our son out of the "system" and have him three hours away by car. We go and visit him once a month and he has been home twice. We are hoping to get him home for my husband's 60th birthday in a few weeks. Everything has to be approved by the court in another state. We are very thankful he is alive but every day we think about the poor woman who lost her life and who's son doesn't have a mom. He was 20 at the time. My son only started getting bad in his late teens. We had no clue until about 17 or 18. His brother however was a different story. He gave us trouble from the age of two on.....We even had to send him to a school away from home for about 1 1/2 years. He was very smart but didn't make friends too easily. He made them in college where he flourished but we didn't know he had bi-polar although his aunt on my husband's side did. he had been on medicines for Tourette Syndrome since he was 12 or 13. Therefore he was under better control as he got older. He has had several bouts of mania but none as bad or wild as my youngest son. The youngest is now 28 and is managing his illness with Lamictil, Risperdal, and some other drugs. He is doing so much better. He believed Brittney Spears was his girlfriend and that she would talk to him from the tv.This started at age 18. He had been in and out of hospitals and was an angel until his mid teens. You see that it just isn't always predictable like you would think. Please have hope for your daughter and don't give up. I have been told that my husband and I are very strong people and I can assure you that I have had to pull it out of me. The two of us wonder how people who aren't as fortunate as us are able to cope? We don't understand why there isn't more help out there. We recently had our son go on disability.We are hoping that this will help with things. Read the book "Crazy" It is very interesting. I have read several books on this topic. Just keep yourself informed!God Bless.

 
July 13, 2008, 1:00 am CDT

Keep The Faith

Quote From: williemac

i agree that it does cost too much to treat this affliction. i was diagnosed when i was about 14. i have now been off my meds fore over four years. i have not been able to find anyont to help me get my meds. i am now to the point that i can not deal with anyone but my wife and son, and even then not for very long. honestly, it feels like there is noone to turn to. very few people seem to understand what it is like and those that do are going through it themselves. not to mention the FACT that more often than not, this illness is misdiagnost and treated with meds that only make the problems worse. i came to this web site because Dr Phil said that he had info that would be helpful. i have seen nothing but the words from others. i was expecting info on where one could turn.
Dear Sir, I hope things are getting better for you. Please stay on your meds even if you have to take one that isn't quite the best one for you. Take lithium if you are having problems with the cost. Anything is better than nothing at all.
 
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