Quote From: stac_andy Dear Dr. Phil,
I was ust woundering about something. How is a homeless person to get help when no one wants to help them? I mean Does everyone think that everyone that lives on the street asks to be there? Does everyone think that ALL people that are homeless do drugs and drinks wine coolers, beer, and so on?
Ok cause here is the thing. my boyfriend and I have been homeless and living from one place to another and the thing that gets me is that everyone thinks it's easy and that a person can get a job with in a couple days. The other thing I can't get is that with the Social Scerity Disability thing is that people that lie and say they can't work are usually the ones that can but yet when there is someone that actually can't work in the work field they have one heack of a battle to try to get it. I know 2 people where I live who I know can actually work. I mean they have no phyical or mental disabilities and they can keep reciving their checks each month and here is my boyfriend who can't work at all fighting for his life to get it and they keep denying him like crazy. I just don't get why the people who are honest about stuff just don't get any where in life and no one won't help them, but yet all the people that lies all the time always get what they want.
Dr. Phil I just don't understand all of this. Please Help. The good honest Christian get's nothing when they need help but a sinner who lies to get stuff always get what they ask from who ever they ask. When will the merical of my boyfriend and I get the help that we need? The only ones I see getting any help are the people that either has kids or already have money and have no values in their life. Any info. out there on all or any of this I would like to know and be able to understand all of this. Any info I can get would be nice. PLEASE HELP!!!!!
Thanks Dr. Phil
No, not everyone thinks that those on the street want to be there, but unfortunately, there are enough people on the street due to mental illness and/or some other issue (alcoholism, drug use/abuse, etc.), that I think a fair number of Americans have become hardened to the fact that there may be people on the street as a result of circumstances beyond their control.
I don't believe Dr. Phil will see your post here, an email to the staff of the show might be the best way to get your story out if you are interested in doing that.
I don't know where you live so it's a little hard to give you specific advice, but I would suggest contacting your local state senator(s). Those offices often have multiple staff members whose main responsibility is to help constituents who may have had issues finding affordable housing, jobs, social security, etc. I worked for a time at my senator's office during college and found that many of these people truly do have a heart for the public, and while some may not trust "politicians," it does behoove them to help their constituents if at all possible. Often, these workers are able to put you in contact with other experts in their field who may be able to help you --please consider this option.
You might also consider contacting local churches--many churches have programs specifically designed to help you get on your feet (may be able to find an apartment for you through members of the church, or at least helping you navigate the troubles you might be having). Your note seems to hint that you are yourself a Christian--I believe that even if you are not in complete agreement with the theology of a particular church, you might find help there. If you are in an area with an active church that may be a good option, at least short-term.
As far as social security--that is a MESS! Many do lie, and unfortunately, if you can afford a good lawyer.... you are almost guaranteed a check. Unfortunately, many who do truly need the help cannot afford the legal advice/representation when it comes to re-applying for social security once it has been denied. Again, your senators and congressmen should have caseworkers in their offices who can help you put together a good case. There may also be lawyers in your area willing to take on a pro-bono case if it is a sure win.
Unfortunately, it does often seem that it's impossible to get ahead if you are following all the rules. I do, however, believe in the power of the Truth, and hope that you will be able to find help wherever you are.
Please keep asking questions! Somewhere out there are good people who can and will help you!
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