Topic : 08/02 "I Love Myself!"

 I am absolutely steaming!!!  It is amazing to me that this father and stepmother are so in denial!!!  I know from growing up in a home with a stepfather who did not like his stepchildren, that nothing being said to these parents is going to change the opinion for this girl.  They "know" that they are not in the wrong!!!  This stepmother does not like this girl, and nothing she says or does will change it!!!  It proved it when she had to bring up her grade point average in college when Dr. Phil was trying to make sure to let everyone know that she had some positive attritubutes.  The stepmother is leading the stepfather around by the nose, or he would not allow this treatment of his daughter.  This girl is acting out because she knows she does not have the support and love she needs from her father.  I know because I was the same way. 

 I am absolutely steaming!!!  It is amazing to me that this father and stepmother are so in denial!!!  I know from growing up in a home with a stepfather who did not like his stepchildren, that nothing being said to these parents is going to change the opinion for this girl.  They "know" that they are not in the wrong!!!  This stepmother does not like this girl, and nothing she says or does will change it!!!  It proved it when she had to bring up her grade point average in college when Dr. Phil was trying to make sure to let everyone know that she had some positive attritubutes.  The stepmother is leading the stepfather around by the nose, or he would not allow this treatment of his daughter.  This girl is acting out because she knows she does not have the support and love she needs from her father.  I know because I was the same way. 

I feel completely horrible for Shannon.  Her "father" is no father at all.  Fathers are supposed to protect and support their children.  Instead of looking for a new "mommy" for his daughter he should have been helping her grieve and developing a Strong relationship with his daughter.  And the evil step mom, I don't think that there is enough help out there for that women.  I believe that she is the cause for most of Shannon's problems.  Shannon has been pushed  to the side and stomped all over by her "family".  I think that the only thing that could help Shannon would be for her walk out on her "family" and never look back.  

Shannon, I wish you all the luck in the world.  I know that you will do great things in your lifetime.  You don't need them beating you down like this.  You deserve so much more.  Most of all, you deserve to be happy.  God Bless You Shannon!!!!   

Why am I not surprized that this issue has turned into step mom bashing?  Shannon is not a child she is 15 years old and she should have some responsibility for her actions.   

Shannon is a prime example of the old saying "You can lead a horse to water..."  She has been seen by a therapist on more than one occasion, but instead of trying to get to the root of her problem, it is much more fun for her to destroy other people's lives. 

So all you Snow White's and Cinderella's please don't tell me how evil step mom's are.  It is not a crime for a parent not  to want to live the rest of there lives alone.  I was THRILLED when my Mom remarried, because unlike you whiners I  didn't want her to be lonley and unhappy and I realized that I shouldn't be the center of her universe forever and ever amen. 

That father was clueless.  He actually said...  nope, her behavior has nothing to do with me.  Hello, he is the common factor in her life from her early childhood through to now.  Get a clue.  

Obviously, she has been seeking attention ever since her sister was born when she was 4.  And then when her mother passed away, she needed his attention even more and he went fishing for a new wife.  

And for that woman to move in, remove the bio-mom's pictures (well I left them up for a while, puhleeeez), and move her own daughter into the girl's room.  Get a clue people.  This girl is acting out her anger and frustration the only way she knows how.  Nobody is listening to her and she is screaming for help.  

There really should be a class required for people to become parents....  really.  

Dear Shannon, 

      I say this with all the love I can as a Mother of two.This situation is not healthy for you.As much as you may feel the want and need for a loving family,it is clear that you will not find it. in your home.I implore you to move out and move on with your life.You are a young women in need of a loving and caring family that will understand your emotions and your needs. 

You need to get on with your life and enjoy your years ahead.Make something of yourself for YOU.This is not a matter of right or wrong,and blaming one another.What is the point?? 

I know in time things will get better for you. At the moment, I know your hurt and angry,and that is human nature!! We have all had those same feelings at one time or another.Some of us have been in similar situations,others have not,but have seen your pain. 

You need to know that there are thousands of us that have watched and herd your cries,and I know that we all want to take you in,and care for you!! Know that you have support,don't waddle in your tears,use that anger,and do something good with your life.DO IT FOR YOU!!!  

We are here.....