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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep?  Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

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Matt is a very immature person. If he wasn't ready to be a father, he should NOT have been having sex at all. Nothing is 100 percent protection except ABSTAINANCE. He is a very selfish, immature jerk, who is trying to capitalize on his lack of morals. If he would have saved himself until marriage, he more than likely wouldn't been in this situation.
thank you!!!!!!!!
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

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Dr. Phil,  I understand some women need the child support,but, I would let him keep his support and sign away his rights. I would not want  to force some one who clearly wants nothing to do with my child to have visitation. Could you imagine what the situation would be for that poor little girl. That's just my opinion.
I agree with you 100%, everyone is thinking about whats best for the adults but no one is thinking of that poor little girl and how its going to effect her when she gets older.  THANKS!!
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

this is the most outrageous topic ever

Im really annoyed by the attitude of these men.  It is just as much THEIR responsiblity to protect THEMSELVES as it is a womans to protect herself.  The only difference is that the woman has to pack that baby around for nine months, give birth (which is NOT a fun thing... i have had 4 children myself) and not to mention all the sleepless nights and stress of having a newborn/infant/toddler/youth and teenager. 

  

Where is the fairness in that?  Women bear the brunt of having children most of the time.  My brother was "trapped" into having a child with his ex girlfriend who told him that she could not have children because she was on birth control.  He did not use protection... the difference here is... HE IS A RESPONSIBLE MAN!!  He is taking care of his child, paying her support and being a dad. 
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

FEED ME !!!! SON HAS HYPOGLYCEMIA AND CANT SLEEP ALL NIGHT!!!

I dont want to alarm anyone, but there maybe a reason for the babies out there that dont sleep.  My son is 51/2 and still gets 3AM feedings. He was diagnosed with Glycogen Storage Disease III when he had his 1 year check up. Dr noticed his liver being enlarged (pot bellied) Which is a metabolic disorder where he cant release his own stored blood sugar, so he MUST eat every 3-4 hours or he may  (will) die. This is a rare genetic disorder, that he inherited from myself and his father(we are just carriers) and you have to have both parents as carriers. Thankfully he refused  the pacifier by himself at 2 months and having twins 18 years earlier gave me the instinct to continue the 3 hour feeding routine. He is doing very well as long as he eats. He does realize now that he has to eat frequently and get his sugar from ANYTHING that HE WANTS to EAT which is kinda cool. So everone please dont rule out that there maybe a reason for the waking up and not sleeping through the night and have your child tested for LOW BLOOD SUGAR !!
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

What about the baby?

The very act of intercourse is supposed to be for one reason.  It has always been to reproduce.  If the gentleman on the show wants equal rights and to act like a man, then his first order of business should be to grow up and become responsible.  Try becoming someone that your beautiful daughter can be proud of.  I am a 25 year old single mother and it makes me sick that any man would file a suit like this.  A child is not a burden and that is what this man has portrayed this baby as.  The mother of this little girl is lucky to have her and even if this man never wants to grow up, there is somebody out there who will give her and her daughter all of the love and support that they will ever need. 
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

If a man has no options within the post-conception decision-making process, he should also have no responsibility toward the child(ren) if he so chooses.  
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

GROW UP

 I HAVE A COUSIN WHO SIGNED HE'S LITTLE GIRL AWAY TO THE MOM WHEN HE WAS A TEENAGER IT WAS 12 YEARS AGO WELL HE REGRETS HE DID THAT CAUSE IN 2005 WHEN THE CHILD TURNED 11 SHE WANTED TO NO WHO HER DAD WAS AND SHE CONFRONTED HIM NOW THEY DO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP BUT HE MISSED 11 YEARS OF HER LIFE AND HE REGRETS THAT TO THIS DAY HE DIDNT GET TO SEE HER FIRST CRAWL WALK OR ANYTING. ONE DAY THIS LITTLE GIRL IS GOING TO CONFRONT HIM THAT WAY AND HE IS GOING TO REGRET EVER DOING THIS. I HOPE THE LAWSUIT FALLS THROUGH. ONE DAY  U WILL PAY HOW WOULD HE LIKE IT IF HES DAD HAD DONE THIS TO HIM OR IF HE'S MOM WOULD OF HAD AN ABORTION WITH HIM AND THEN HE WOULDNT BE HERE TODAY THINK ABOUT. GOD WILL MAKE HIM PAY FOR WHAT HE IS DOING  
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

I think this mans position is abhorrent.  Whether or not he wanted to be father or not is irrelevant at this point.  The child is here.  How is that child going to feel in 14 years when she gets to see a taping of the show.  I don't believe the answer is to say, "don't have sex."  But he had the choice to wear a condom.  I too was told at the age of 20 that I would be unable to have children due to a tumor on my pituitary gland secreting specific hormones.  I told my fiancee the news, and wouldn't you know it, three months later I was pregnant.  Thank God my fiancee, now my husband, found the news to be the miracle that I took it to be.  Today we are the proud parents of two beautiful children.
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

regretting

I'm in a similar position as Matt.  I am 22 and have had relations with a 20 year old who promised she was on birth control and assured me she could not get pregnant.  Now that she IS pregnant, she tells me that she has wanted a child more than anything since she was 16. She tells me that it just slipped her mind that she changed her medication and the birth control wouldn't work for a period of time that we had relations.  She absolutely refuses to give the baby up for adoption, and I feel that she has planned this out the whole time to trap me into giving her a baby.  I do not believe she is mentally prepared to become a mother, and I know for sure that she has no financial ability.  She and her mother have no jobs and she is applying for WIC, which I believe will only get her so far.  She says she won't sue me for child support, but I have absolutely no reason to believe her.  I feel that in this case the Roe V Wade for Men should apply to me.  I am sure that this kind of thing happens to men all the time, and we currently have no choices in the situation. 
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

Men's Constitutional Rights?

Men have all the same constitutional rights as woman, this particular topic of the young man wanting to stand behind his constitutional right not to be a father is completely outrageous!!  He had the right to secure his own protection, he had the right to make a decision as to whether or not utilize his own protection or believe what his partner had told him.  It seems as though this young man believes he is grown and responsible enough to engage in sex, but at the same time acting adolescent enough in asking for the state to recognize his "right" not to be a father.  The child has been born, he is a father........pure and simple.......even if they had both agreed to give the child up for adoption, he has still become a father as she became a mother.   This country already has too lax of standards when it comes to young people and teens engaging in sexual activity........most of the time being completely irresponsible while doing it...........I agree with the question that Dr. Phil posed as to the impact and the "trap door" this may present to other dead beat dads.  If you are old enough to make the decision to have sex, being that young, then you must accept the outcome as well........good or bad, otherwise, just don't do it!!!!!!!!!
 
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