Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I think that All Men should have the choice to be father even if the fail to create their own destiny by having unprotected sex.... there should be a legal option to opt out....  

What good is it to the child to have someone who doesn't want to be a part of their life? 

Sad,?  Yes, but true none the less. 

FIRST:  

You want the choice to give up your child just like a woman has the right to give up her child for adoption.  You want ALL the same rights as a woman has...  

I wish you could carry a baby in YOUR womb for nine months and then give birth and I'm willing to bet any money that you would NEVER want to give up this most beautiful creature ever made.  

SECOND:  

You say that "someday I'll be a great Father"...that someday is today.  Tomorrow may never come.  

.  You HAVE a beautiful baby, whether you like it or not.  You will miss out on one of the greatest gifts that God will ever given you if you walk away from this angel.  I hope you can come to your senses and DO THE RIGHT THING. 

Try to imagine that one or both of your parents don't want anything to do with you...how would you feel?    

I think you can be the bigger man and be a great Father, starting now.  

I believe the first story of the young man trying to obtain a legal judgement to get him out of his obligation to support his 8 month old daughter was ridiculous.  He had a choice...  In fact he had a couple of choices.  The first being not to have sex and the second being to wear a condom.  If he did not want to be a father then he had no business taking any chances at all!  You can't turn back the clock.   

If I did not want a baby...I WOULD NOT MYSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE IT WAS A POSSIBILITY!!!!! 

You made your bed now sleep in it.  The beautiful little girl he fathered did nothing wrong and deserves to be loved by BOTH parents.  Hopefully he will not miss out totally on her life. 

My best friend and her fiancee are both under 25 years old and are pregnant.  6 months ago if asked that if they got pregnant, would they keep the baby both of their answers would be no - hands down - and they'd both tell you that today.  however, after going through the process for the option of abortion their feelings changed and they both decided that the best thing was to keep the baby.  today they couldn't be happier about the new baby on the way.   

My point is, is that when you make the decision to have sex, with protection or not, you really never know yourself enough to know what your decision would actually be when the situation presents itself.   So Matt saying that his ex girlfriend knew what she would do when she became pregnant is impossible - because there is no way of knowing.   

When a man and woman make the decision to be sexually intimate, there is always the chance that a pregnancy can occurr. Matt's ex girlfriend was on the pill. Matt should have done his share in prevention of pregnancy as well as his ex, if he was so set against being a father. He should have made sure he was using a condom.  

Seems to me, the woman in this case is the only one who was taking some responsibility. Of course we all know that no birth control is 100 % with the exception of abstinance.  

Now there is a precious baby involved. This child did not choose to be born, nor does she get to choose what happens to her. She cannot choose to walk away from her parents.  For every person, male or female, who after conceiving a child, thinks they should get the final choice, you are very selfish.  Every child is a defenseless creation. Each one must be nurtured and cared for. 

I think that abortion was grossly unfair to both the father & the developing infant.  And the fact that abortion is legal in 49 states should not be used to justify fathers skipping out on child support.   

 As for Mr. Dubay, he stated over and over he didn't want a child, but actions speak louder than words & he chose to have unprotected sex.  The child's right to have child support from her father trumps any post-coital right of Mr. Dubay not to be a father.