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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep?  Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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williamshk
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

Baby War

I believe that they should've both thought about what they were doing before they had sex.  I also think that a father should be notified when a mother has a child. I knew a girl who never told her ex boyfriend she was pregnant and gave the child up for adoption. He found out later and had to get the baby back.  It's easy to give a kid up for adoption if you pretend you don't know the father.  I also think it's only fair that if a woman can have an abortion that the father of the child should have a say in it as well.  How is it right to say a man should have worn a condom or used birth control so now he has to take care of a baby when a woman can take birth control or not have sex and be the only deciding factor in having an abortion?  Unless she was raped or it's incest, I believe the dad should be able to say no I don't want her to have an abortion.  We all have to take responsibility for our actions.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

Roe vs Wade for Men

Matt is 100% right.  His constitutional and privacy rights are being viloated.  In this day and age, HE CERTAINLY SHOULD HAVE A CHOICE!   

  

I URGE EVERYONE TO SUPPORT THIS!  WRITE YOUR LOCAL CONGRESSMEN AND SENATORS AND TELL THEM TO SUPPORT ROE vs WADE for MEN. 

  

  

  

  

  
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Matt should have realized that sexual intercourse could create a new life.  His decision to have sex, whether he was ready to be a dad or not, made him ready if it happened.  It happened, he knew that there was a chance, and now he wants to run from his responsibility. 
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

Want a fair shake with choice on fatherhood?

If you don't want to be "dad"... keep your pants on.  You're 100% in control on this one.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

ABOUT THE DIFFERENT TOPICS ON YOUR SHOW TODAY

ABOUT THE TOPIC: "SHOULD MEN B ABLE TO OPT OUT OF FATHER HOOD" 

 

I THINK MYSELF IF THE MAN OR THE WOMAN IS MATTUERED ENOUGH TO HAVE SEX THEY SHOULD BE MATTUERED ENOUGH TO USE PROTECTION AND IF THE WOMAN STILL GETS PREGANT THEN MAYBE THEY SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE THEY HAD SEX. 

 

ABOUT THE TOPIC: "Closed for Baby Business?"  

 

I THINK IF THE WOMAN DONT WANT NO MORE KIDS THAT THE MAN SHOULD RESPECT THAT & BE HAPPY WITH THE FOUR KIDS THAT HE HAS. 

 

About the topic:  "Husband on Strike"  

 

i think its ok for them to be in your room for the 1st month or 2,just not in your bed.i think instead of sleeping with your baby that you should have a baby bed or a bassanet in your room for your baby to sleep in.after the1st month or 2 i would move your baby in there own room. 

 

about the topic :  "Battle at Bedtime" 

 

my husband used to tell me the same thing,"that is i need to let my baby cry herself to sleep".it was very hard for me to listen to my baby to cry at 1st but i knew i had to do it or i was never gonna get her asleep & plus i would never get a break.so i finally got used to her crying herself to asleep & she finally acts like she no's when i put her in bed that its nap or bed time. 

 

  

 

 

 

 
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:31 pm PDT

Men are crazy

That man talks about not having the choice about becoming a father, WELL the baby didn't have a choice either, this makes me crazy, all this talk about the mother having all the options,I agree with Dr.Phil if he didn't want childeren HE should have worn a condom thru out no matter what
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

...However, he did opt for adoption, which does show concern and responsibility.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

baby wars

About the man that doesn't want to be a father: I think he is right by not having anything to do with the child if he doesn't want to but I do believe that he should pay some kind of child support because the child is his no matter what.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

Men - Step Up!

This is for all men who want an "equal playing field."  When you are ready to step up and take on 50% of the parenting responsibilities without the whining, excuses and selfish-attitude, then and only then can you expect to have a say in whether or not a child is to be born into this world.  Most of the responsibility of caring for the children still rests with the mother in this country.  If that changes to an "equal playing field" then you have a gripe! 

  

  
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

I must agree with Matt

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I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

 I think it is sad that he does not feel any joy regarding his child but that is a moot point.  What if he had been thrilled with the idea of a baby and the girlfriend had elected to have an abortion?  What if he had gone to court to insist she not abort his child?  What would have happened then?  The poor child is caught in the middle but just because a baby is physically in the mother's body should not entitle her to more rights than the father.
 
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