Topic : 100 pounds to loose and just getting started - AGAIN!

today is sunday and I went to sunday school school and church.  afterwards mom took me to pizza hut.  we had cheesy bites pepperoni pizza.  I ate 3 pieces there with 3 glasses of diet pepsi with lemon.  mom sent the last 3 pieces home with me.  I ate them shortly after arriving home.  I have felt misserable all afternoon and dozed off and on the rest of the day.  there is nobody to blame but me and I know it.  I guess my best bet to get this weight rolling again is to go back to counting calories until I start losing again.  I can not gain.  I have come to far.  I was so full I only walked 1/2 mile and got mad at myself because of it.  who else has set backs like this and how do you handle them?  I know I must not be alone.  come on folks let me hear from someone else.  I need encouragement......grace

Hi I am Terri and understand how you feel. I too have 100lbs to lose. I am 5"3" and weight 228. If you would like to talk let me know.                                                                                                                 Sincerely

                                                                                                                            Teri

Kathryn I don't know how much this will help you but if you realize that you love sweets, you are miles ahead of conquering your addiction. It is an addiction, just as artificial sweeteners are (except for Stevia, which I also grow in my home!!). The artificial sweeteners still tell your brain your are consuming sugar, so you secrete insulin. Not good!

Merely tell yourself you will not eat anything that is white (unless its cauliflower!). ;-)) Then think about this...what happens when an alcoholic or substance abuser (drugs) leaves rehab, and then takes a drink or "just one 'hit'?" They cannot do it, or they're off the wagon again. So imagine those of us with food addictions, or anything that causes us to hold our weight, not lose weight, such as drugs, diseases, et al, and we MUST eat something every day. For any other addiction that would mean we were doomed. But, we have the option of  "tasting" and spitting it out. I don't mean bulemia or anorexia, I merely mean if you must taste something sweet, and an orange won't do, and you're feel you must eat something sweet--first try a sugar cube dipped in iced or hot tea, and have a glass of water ready, and taste it, then spit it out. VOILA. You'r passed that tempation for a while, yet not "off the wagon."

Water tastes much better with a slice of cucumber in it, or a few strawberries. And once you are on a healthy diet, eating whole veggies and fruits instead of cut up canned things, you'll find it easier to look forward to a treating yourself to a nice meal. In other words, its like saving money. The more you have in the saving account, the less you want to spend! It becomes a nasty habit. ;-))

I hope that helps you a little bit. And, while you're at it, have the Diabetes Association tell you when their next screening is, and make yourself go. You will be able to meet with nutritionists, and hear real stories about people with diabetes and what happens to them. Its not a nice experience, but the screening is invaluable in taking care of yourself. In fact, every time you want to spend money on something sweet, or laden with partially-hyrdogenated fats, or corn syrup solids, remember 1) there is no such thing as "corn oil," and 2) both will clog your heart, yes, but also your brain, and 3)spend the money on fresh flowers for yourself, at least one pretty one, or buy a little bag of fresh cherries, or chew a few walnuts or pecans. Either way, your next best step must be that which brings you the greatest potential for health and recovery. Go Woman!

As I read the posts from the two of you, I'm sitting here munching a brown rice cracker with cucumber slices on it, and have a glass of water next to me.

Firstly, with breastcancer society does everything possible to convince you that you can hide it and it never happened. The wigs hide the effects of chemo (Oh no they dont!), and the prostheses hid the loss of a breast, or two...but in reality, one is very ill, and only the steroids in the chemo (if one accepts them) keep people with bc from going nuts with nauses and dehydration (ask me I rejected the steroids--I know!). The truth is when we looked at ourselves in the mirrors in the privacy of our homes, we realized we didn't even recognize who was in the reflection. Someone with a mutilation on the chest, minimally, and no hair! Oh, yes, that was necessary, but its so easy to bury one's feelings in the "great wigs out today," and "now I have the bust size I always wanted..." NOT.

When we are assaulted, directly, or indirectly, its so easy to internalize it, and get on with life, or so we think. But, its far better to be strong and call the shots as we see, or feel them, so we don't use food, or other "comforts" to quell our internal pain. It may mean losing "friends" but they weren't friends to begin with and if it means going into marriage counseling, then it will help everyone in the family. Either way, laying down means someone who is "blind" is going to step on us, so do not lie down. We each have a place in this world, and a right to speak, regardless of where we are...even in another's home if we're being abused. Once we refuse to take insults, pain, changes, and fight back with a force equal to the blow, things for oneself will become easier, like spitting out food not good for us. Its the same thing...we try to keep on smiling, and swallow the swill, instead of spitting it out. Think about that. You may shock some people but they'll be around, and if they aren't or don't change, it really is their problem. Let them work on themselves, while you work on yourself.