Topic : 100 pounds to loose and just getting started - AGAIN!

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Created on : Friday, April 21, 2006, 09:47:47 am
Author : patti1122

Hey All

I'm so disgusted with myself. Early February I lost 15 pounds and as of yesterday I have managed to put it all back on.

I weigh 243, I am 5'4", I am going to give it another go. I do weight watchers and I was hoping I would find some friends and encouragement here.

I'll check back later.


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March 25, 2007, 4:25 pm PDT

I pigged out today

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when I started dieting over a 2.5 years ago I had 160 lbs to lose.  I had lost my husband to cardiac arrest and I was left alone.  my son was on his own with his fiance and 2 children.  I did not depend on him to help me.  I knew if I wanted to live I had to lose weight.  my doctor put me in cardiac rehab to get a slow but managable start.  I had a dietician and diabeties nurse at my disposal.  I was put on 1200 cal a day diet.  it took me about 2 yrs to lose 60 lbs. I have since dropped out of cardiac rehab because of transportation problems.  I have started walking which I was unable to do at 262 lb.  when I was that weight I fell alot and got short winded easy.  I am now down to 204.  my doctor sees me every 3-4 months to monitor weight,  bp (which) I am on meds for and my diabetes.   I try to walk daily from 1-7 miles is the fartherest I have I have made it.  I keep in contact with cardiac rehab, but I feel I still am lacking that one on one support.  I live on the eastern shore of maryland and in my profile is all my info if you are interested.  I am just learning how to work the boards and may never find my way back.  I would like to weigh between 100-120 lbs.  I stand 4'11" and I am tired of being fat.  my doc says 150 lbs is as low as he wants me.  I will argue that when I get there.  folks can I count on some support here,  I know I am not getting it else where like I feel I need it.  my user name is gaball but please call me grace.  hope to hear from someone soon.

today is sunday and I went to sunday school school and church.  afterwards mom took me to pizza hut.  we had cheesy bites pepperoni pizza.  I ate 3 pieces there with 3 glasses of diet pepsi with lemon.  mom sent the last 3 pieces home with me.  I ate them shortly after arriving home.  I have felt misserable all afternoon and dozed off and on the rest of the day.  there is nobody to blame but me and I know it.  I guess my best bet to get this weight rolling again is to go back to counting calories until I start losing again.  I can not gain.  I have come to far.  I was so full I only walked 1/2 mile and got mad at myself because of it.  who else has set backs like this and how do you handle them?  I know I must not be alone.  come on folks let me hear from someone else.  I need encouragement......grace

 
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April 30, 2007, 3:36 pm PDT

I understand

Hi I am Terri and understand how you feel. I too have 100lbs to lose. I am 5"3" and weight 228. If you would like to talk let me know.                                                                                                                 Sincerely

                                                                                                                            Teri

 
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June 12, 2007, 3:59 pm PDT

Can I do this?

I'm new to this site and scared as hell.  I want to be healthy . I want to weigh 160lbs. Im 5'5, my wieght is 276 right now. I have lost 12 lbs since April 4th. i know I can do this , being healthy, treating myself right, I used to think that i kept my weight on to keep me safe from men, but then I met my wonderful husband and well that excuse went out the door or even more food went in my mouth. I weighed 215 when i met him having just lost 25lbs. Over the past three years i have gotten myself up to 288. I let myself gorge on my honeymoon I gained 10 lbs. in one week. Love those Las Vegas buffets, and ice cream oh don't get me started!  Also I want to have a baby. Being pregnant at this size seems unfair and unhealthy for me and a baby.  Ihave  dr. phils weight loss book. I start to read it and then i stop i guess i'm scared of success. I always joke if I wasn't fat then i'd be perfect and have nothing to complain about  LOL -  I would like a person I can be accountable too, someone to read the book with. Commit to certain pages and exercises and report back too. I would just like someone to talk too. To vent to. To write when i make myself second on the list.  p.s. I hope I figure this whole message board scene out cause i'd really like some support.
 
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June 15, 2007, 7:42 am PDT

Touched by your message

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I don't know why I am writing. In fact, as I write I feel like crying. I just feel like such a loser. I feel so ashame, I haven't worn short in I don't remember hhow many years. I love to swim, but I wouldn't be caught dead in a bathing suit. I have no self-esteem. My one dream in life was to have my own house. Of course I had to seperate from my husband to do it. So the day was finally here. It was August of 2002. The same day of my signing I found out I had breast cancer. I got my house just in time. After I don't know how many surgeries, chemo and radiation, I had a place of my own to be sick  in. I could come home from work and take off my wig and prosthesis and not have to worry about anybody seeing me. Now I am not only way over weight, I feel like a freak. I guess that's why I can't seem to get motivates. I know my weight is not my only problem. I just don't know where to start. I  feel like such a mess.  

I just read your message and I was very touched by it. I have to admit that it made me cry because it was like I could feel your pain. It has been a while since your posting so I would like to hear about  your success.  I too am one that would like to hide from the world.  My husband asked me last night if I found him to be sexy and I told him of course and that I am the one that is not sexy. He got angry because he has loved me at various weights and that never changes. He told me that my perception of myself is interfering with our intimate time and that it isn't fair to him. I feel unworthy of his love because of my weight, but he's never been overweight so he couldn't possibly understand, but his comment did put the fear in me, so I am ready to dust myself off and get back on the saddle.I am at the onset of menopause because I had a hysterectomy at a young age (21). I am 42 now and I have weighed as much as 284 lbs. Right now I think that I am around 250 lbs. but i'm not sure because I threw my scale away. I love riding a stationary bike and that helped me lose 40 lbs. previously along with a 1400 calorie diet but I was hungry all the time and felt light headed quite often. I know that I can do this with a little support. What have you found to really work for you?
 
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June 15, 2007, 11:54 pm PDT

Sugar Additct? Remember the word

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I  am a sugar addict and i have family members that worry about me and my health and i need help to lose the weight, my weight is about 150-245,i love sweets, i love alot of sweets and i need help to lose the weight..PLEASE HELP ME

 

KATHRYN

Kathryn I don't know how much this will help you but if you realize that you love sweets, you are miles ahead of conquering your addiction. It is an addiction, just as artificial sweeteners are (except for Stevia, which I also grow in my home!!). The artificial sweeteners still tell your brain your are consuming sugar, so you secrete insulin. Not good!

 

Merely tell yourself you will not eat anything that is white (unless its cauliflower!). ;-)) Then think about this...what happens when an alcoholic or substance abuser (drugs) leaves rehab, and then takes a drink or "just one 'hit'?" They cannot do it, or they're off the wagon again. So imagine those of us with food addictions, or anything that causes us to hold our weight, not lose weight, such as drugs, diseases, et al, and we MUST eat something every day. For any other addiction that would mean we were doomed. But, we have the option of  "tasting" and spitting it out. I don't mean bulemia or anorexia, I merely mean if you must taste something sweet, and an orange won't do, and you're feel you must eat something sweet--first try a sugar cube dipped in iced or hot tea, and have a glass of water ready, and taste it, then spit it out. VOILA. You'r passed that tempation for a while, yet not "off the wagon."

 

Water tastes much better with a slice of cucumber in it, or a few strawberries. And once you are on a healthy diet, eating whole veggies and fruits instead of cut up canned things, you'll find it easier to look forward to a treating yourself to a nice meal. In other words, its like saving money. The more you have in the saving account, the less you want to spend! It becomes a nasty habit. ;-))

 

I hope that helps you a little bit. And, while you're at it, have the Diabetes Association tell you when their next screening is, and make yourself go. You will be able to meet with nutritionists, and hear real stories about people with diabetes and what happens to them. Its not a nice experience, but the screening is invaluable in taking care of yourself. In fact, every time you want to spend money on something sweet, or laden with partially-hyrdogenated fats, or corn syrup solids, remember 1) there is no such thing as "corn oil," and 2) both will clog your heart, yes, but also your brain, and 3)spend the money on fresh flowers for yourself, at least one pretty one, or buy a little bag of fresh cherries, or chew a few walnuts or pecans. Either way, your next best step must be that which brings you the greatest potential for health and recovery. Go Woman!

 

 
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June 16, 2007, 12:04 am PDT

Encouragement?

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today is sunday and I went to sunday school school and church.  afterwards mom took me to pizza hut.  we had cheesy bites pepperoni pizza.  I ate 3 pieces there with 3 glasses of diet pepsi with lemon.  mom sent the last 3 pieces home with me.  I ate them shortly after arriving home.  I have felt misserable all afternoon and dozed off and on the rest of the day.  there is nobody to blame but me and I know it.  I guess my best bet to get this weight rolling again is to go back to counting calories until I start losing again.  I can not gain.  I have come to far.  I was so full I only walked 1/2 mile and got mad at myself because of it.  who else has set backs like this and how do you handle them?  I know I must not be alone.  come on folks let me hear from someone else.  I need encouragement......grace

Grace, it seems to me that you are encouraging yourself, but you don't seem to understand the chemistry of foods. I noticed you're drinking Diet Pepsi, and it has a preservative in it that is not only not good for us, but if you are sensitive to preservatives it can make you feel badly. I'm not ignoring the pizza but I'm sure you realize that you should not have eaten it at all, in spite of your "MOM." Give her the pizza..."Here, you deal with this..." and pig out at the salad bar using plenty of raw veggies, and ask for some garlic powder (I carry it with me everywhere) to sprinkle on salads, with lemon or lime juice from my water drinks or vinegar if its available.  Better yet, you might decided to go it alone to church et al, and treat yourself to a lovely fresh food restaurant on the way home, by yourself. That isn't being alone..you're with someone you can trust cares about you--yourself. If someone gives you foods like pizza, I'd seriously question their intentions. I'm not sorry about saying that, either. Its an obvious fact here, and you let that abuse slap you down. Stop it!
 
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June 16, 2007, 12:20 am PDT

Wholesomeness conquers a lot, even with cancer

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I just read your message and I was very touched by it. I have to admit that it made me cry because it was like I could feel your pain. It has been a while since your posting so I would like to hear about  your success.  I too am one that would like to hide from the world.  My husband asked me last night if I found him to be sexy and I told him of course and that I am the one that is not sexy. He got angry because he has loved me at various weights and that never changes. He told me that my perception of myself is interfering with our intimate time and that it isn't fair to him. I feel unworthy of his love because of my weight, but he's never been overweight so he couldn't possibly understand, but his comment did put the fear in me, so I am ready to dust myself off and get back on the saddle.I am at the onset of menopause because I had a hysterectomy at a young age (21). I am 42 now and I have weighed as much as 284 lbs. Right now I think that I am around 250 lbs. but i'm not sure because I threw my scale away. I love riding a stationary bike and that helped me lose 40 lbs. previously along with a 1400 calorie diet but I was hungry all the time and felt light headed quite often. I know that I can do this with a little support. What have you found to really work for you?

As I read the posts from the two of you, I'm sitting here munching a brown rice cracker with cucumber slices on it, and have a glass of water next to me.

 

Firstly, with breastcancer society does everything possible to convince you that you can hide it and it never happened. The wigs hide the effects of chemo (Oh no they dont!), and the prostheses hid the loss of a breast, or two...but in reality, one is very ill, and only the steroids in the chemo (if one accepts them) keep people with bc from going nuts with nauses and dehydration (ask me I rejected the steroids--I know!). The truth is when we looked at ourselves in the mirrors in the privacy of our homes, we realized we didn't even recognize who was in the reflection. Someone with a mutilation on the chest, minimally, and no hair! Oh, yes, that was necessary, but its so easy to bury one's feelings in the "great wigs out today," and "now I have the bust size I always wanted..." NOT.

 

When we are assaulted, directly, or indirectly, its so easy to internalize it, and get on with life, or so we think. But, its far better to be strong and call the shots as we see, or feel them, so we don't use food, or other "comforts" to quell our internal pain. It may mean losing "friends" but they weren't friends to begin with and if it means going into marriage counseling, then it will help everyone in the family. Either way, laying down means someone who is "blind" is going to step on us, so do not lie down. We each have a place in this world, and a right to speak, regardless of where we are...even in another's home if we're being abused. Once we refuse to take insults, pain, changes, and fight back with a force equal to the blow, things for oneself will become easier, like spitting out food not good for us. Its the same thing...we try to keep on smiling, and swallow the swill, instead of spitting it out. Think about that. You may shock some people but they'll be around, and if they aren't or don't change, it really is their problem. Let them work on themselves, while you work on yourself.

 
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June 20, 2007, 7:31 am PDT

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As I read the posts from the two of you, I'm sitting here munching a brown rice cracker with cucumber slices on it, and have a glass of water next to me.

 

Firstly, with breastcancer society does everything possible to convince you that you can hide it and it never happened. The wigs hide the effects of chemo (Oh no they dont!), and the prostheses hid the loss of a breast, or two...but in reality, one is very ill, and only the steroids in the chemo (if one accepts them) keep people with bc from going nuts with nauses and dehydration (ask me I rejected the steroids--I know!). The truth is when we looked at ourselves in the mirrors in the privacy of our homes, we realized we didn't even recognize who was in the reflection. Someone with a mutilation on the chest, minimally, and no hair! Oh, yes, that was necessary, but its so easy to bury one's feelings in the "great wigs out today," and "now I have the bust size I always wanted..." NOT.

 

When we are assaulted, directly, or indirectly, its so easy to internalize it, and get on with life, or so we think. But, its far better to be strong and call the shots as we see, or feel them, so we don't use food, or other "comforts" to quell our internal pain. It may mean losing "friends" but they weren't friends to begin with and if it means going into marriage counseling, then it will help everyone in the family. Either way, laying down means someone who is "blind" is going to step on us, so do not lie down. We each have a place in this world, and a right to speak, regardless of where we are...even in another's home if we're being abused. Once we refuse to take insults, pain, changes, and fight back with a force equal to the blow, things for oneself will become easier, like spitting out food not good for us. Its the same thing...we try to keep on smiling, and swallow the swill, instead of spitting it out. Think about that. You may shock some people but they'll be around, and if they aren't or don't change, it really is their problem. Let them work on themselves, while you work on yourself.

You are very wise! I read your profile you are an inspiration to me. I wish there were more people in the world with your strength and commitment to life. May God bless you!    MB
 
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June 23, 2007, 6:50 pm PDT

Feeling Couragous-Is This Smart?

I bought the nicotine patches and quit smoking just three days ago.  I am doing great! An added bonus is that since I started wearing the nicotine patches, I've lost my appetite. Before, I would have food in one hand and a cigarette in the other. I smoked and ate way too much.  I am feeling better about myself now and I am feeling better physically too.  Has anybody else out there had this experience?  I mean, kicking two habits at the same time? Am I being impractical to think that this is going to continue? Please respond if you have knowledge or just a comment.
 
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December 28, 2007, 6:46 pm PST

100 lbs to lose as well!

I'm 21 and have been over weight my entire life. i hit my highest weight at 240, then lost 30lbs when I moved away, but after a terrible breakup and getting sick, i gained back my 30lbs and now weigh 229. I want to weigh 150 eventually but right now just have a goal to be between 200-210 lbs by July 2008. I need support from some where and thought maybe I would find it here.

I feel horrible and gross when i look in the mirror. i have very low self esteem...and miss how i felt even the 30lbs ligher. i can only imagine how great being under 200 lbs would feel. I need to lose the weight, not only for self esteem reasons but becasue I also have Endometreosis and I have been told losing weight helps with the pain.

anyone wanna share more stories and motivation with me? either on here or my email is schernoff124@hotmail.com
 

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