Thank you for your response. I have been seeking counseling through my church, but she tells me to go with my heart. Not having my husband there is not by my choice. He is moving to San Diego to be closer to his girlfriend and that is 7 hours away from my home. Both of my first children came in less than six hours from start to finish. If I happen to go into to labor in the middle of the day it will take him over 9 hours to get here. He is insisting on moving there before the baby is born and my doctor is telling me to stay hopeful, but plan on him not being there. My first two children were large and this baby is below average weight due to stress and a few complications. He expects this baby to be a quick and easy delivery. I know there is hope and that God will work it out, but I truly want to be alone if he isn't there. I just don't know how to request this without stepping on toes. My husband is a correctional officer so on top of the driving time he will also need to be replaced before he can leave. I asked him to take off time to be here during the time I am due and he told me he used up all his time he saved to spend time with our new baby on trips to San Diego. The reality is that he is lower than most men in this situation because even though he may not care about me anymore he doesn't even show he cares to his own flesh and blood. I was hospitalized last week with preterm labor and he said he couldn't go to the hospital because he was going drinking with some friends. I don't tell you this to bash him, but to show you his mentality. His whole being right now is all about him. It's really frustrating how someone can walk away from all responsibility and enjoy it. He actually brags that he enjoys not having the burden of a family.
